We haven’t done Java Talk in quite awhile. A reader named Rosie suggested we chat about how we handle difficult days. How we bolster ourselves, in our own individual way, to get through them.
Personally, I usually fret and worry for a day. Which is a total waste. But it’s hard to reprogram yourself. I’ll try not to think about something, but before I know it, I’m thinking about it again.
Once I can get myself into a semi-calm place, I try to do something nice for myself. Go get an iced coffee from McDonalds. (Try the caramel, OMG it’s good! I’m totally addicted to them.) Or I’ll go to Barnes & Noble. Bookstores always relax me if they aren’t busy.
I’ll draw a bath and try to relax in the water. Usually I’ll do the yoga stretching to prepare myself for said bath.
I try to read in the evening. It soothes me.
Yesterday I was in Target getting a few groceries. I could hear this kid screaming all over the store. Finally I came across the kid and her mother near the frozen food.
The mother was chatting with another mother, who was rocking her baby to and fro. Like there wasn’t a child screaming bloody murder right there in their midst.
Alarm bells were going off in my head that said: “Get your stuff and get the hell out of here!”
I said something to the effect of: “Boy, I could hear that child all over the store.”
She said: “Yeah, she’s loud.” And went right on talking. How you could talk over that I don’t know.
I would have been embarrassed, apologized for any disruption, and left the store.
Life sure is different nowadays.
What do you do to calm yourself on difficult days?