Change Is Inevitable…

I’ve been working on a painting project. I’ll show you when I’m done. Then I’m probably starting another.

Charlie goes back to his regular vet on Wednesday and they will then probably send him to a specialist. From what I can tell, his eye doesn’t appear to be getting better after his surgery. They’ve seen him once since.

Hoping for better news on that front. 

Have you ever watched the Clint Eastwood movie Gran Torino?

Well, I seldom take two hours to watch a movie. But a few weeks ago it happened to be on while I was doing my yoga floor exercises. So I ended up watching it all the way through. 

I love movies that evolve into someone learning something about themselves. Clint Eastwood is a grumpy old man who is bigoted, and over the course of the movie comes to accept other races/cultures. 

Though I was a bit bothered by the racial slurs he used in the beginning, I hoped that the lesson taught made up for some of that.

It happened to be on yesterday and I watched the second half of it again. If you haven’t seen it, check into it. It’s been around for some time.

It’s still hot here in Oklahoma. The weather here doesn’t seem to understand that we’re on the eve of November. Maybe we’ll still be using air conditioning on Thanksgiving!

I received some supplies I ordered from Amazon for bullet journaling, but I haven’t had a chance to dig in yet. After some of these projects I’m working on are finished, I suppose. 

I’m still pinning on my Bullet Journaling Board on Pinterest.

I’m doing laundry right now. The pupsters are in the chair with me. Abi is curled up in my lap and Charlie is on the ottoman. My babies are never far from my side.

Is there any creature more loyal than a dog?

I’m still in the midst of purging. Every few days I go into my closets in my bedroom and see if there’s something else that can go. 

Space is at a premium so I need to figure out ways to move things about to make better use of the space I have, or get rid of more. 

Seems like I just get that done and before I know it things are all piled up again…

I headed out to Woodward Park with my camera last week. But when I got there, I saw that none of the leaves were turning, so I didn’t even bother to stop. I’ll try again next week probably. 

I always love to get photos there in the fall and again in the springtime.

As you all probably know by now, we lost blogger Pat of Back Porch Musings in September. What a loss it was too. That woman was truly a class act if ever there was one.

(I dedicated this to her…)

Since then I’ve been rethinking a lot of things when it comes to blogging. Like what has happened to the camaraderie we bloggers used to have. 

Bloggers don’t seem to be commenting on each others blogs like we did years ago. Everything seems to be about social media.

Yes, I know time changes everything. But it seems to me it shouldn’t be all about business.

The more I thought of Pat and how we knew each other years ago and how things were back then, the more I thought: Why does it have to change if there are still many of us who don’t want it to?

So I started digging around on blog rolls looking for bloggers I’d somehow lost touch with. Bloggers that used to visit me and I visited them.

And in doing so, I feel like I’ve found some old friends. It makes me smile when I recall old friendships I’ve somehow let slip through the sands of time.

Losing Pat brought back a lot of memories of days gone by. I don’t want to lose track of people, because you never know when you might lose them, or they you. 

So I guess the moral of this story is: Don’t let time pass you by and forget old friends. Time is fleeting, and it’s one thing money can’t buy. 

So use it wisely and judiciously.

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  1. And I feel the same way about you! I think you just hit the nail on the head. And I didn't even realize it myself. I have grown bored with the way I've been writing. And now I realize that I got where I am today because the nasty comments wrung me out to dry. Think maybe it's time to reverse things…

  2. I don't have a blog as you know Brenda…but I do consider you a best friend…you are always kind and understanding and helpful in any way possible…I would talk to you sooner than I would someone in my own family…they are so critical with their comments on things…That's how I grew up…with constant criticism to the point where I just gave up and learned to not discuss things…I still get spells where I clam up and can't comment or discuss things…I also believe that is why you changed your style of writing…because some commenters were being so nasty and critical in their comments…Well Brenda…you know you can't ever make everyone happy or in the words of Ricky Nelson…"You can't please everyone so you got to please yourself". Do it your way…I will still be here!

  3. Enjoy your thought provoking comments. And I did not know about Pat and have wondered why I had not seen her blog in a long while. I really hate that. Thank you Brenda for being a down to earth blogger.

  4. I sure hope your sweet pup gets help with his eye. Poor little guy.

    Gran Torino is an excellent movie. I loved it partly because Clint Eastwood is such a fine actor.

    You are right in that blogging has changed. A year or so ago, I was getting 30 to 40 or more comments. Now I'm lucky to get 10. I was on a long break and maybe that is part of the reason. But I've noticed a lot of bloggers aren't posting lately and I miss them. Some just disappear without a word and we're left to worry and wonder what happened.

    It was a shock to hear about Pat when I returned from my break. One just never knows. Life is short and maybe some bloggers are devoting more time to other pursuits, but I do hope that blogging doesn't fade away even though it does take a good deal of time and effort.

    Great post, Brenda. Have a good week.

    1. Most days now I'm lucky to get 10 comments myself. I just don't think many actually bother to comment anymore. I'm talking about other bloggers.

  5. Hi Brenda. I enjoy reading your blog. I visit every day. I don't comment and I should just to let you know I stopped by. I liked your post today and I agree. I slowed down on my blog and I nearly stopped blogging. I felt like I didn't have a place in bloggland anymore. But I changed my mind. I like blogging, and I have blogs I regularly follow, such as yours. I don't want to lose the contact I have with my blogging friends. I enjoy the blog friendships. Thanks for your delightful blog. Karie

  6. I have to check out the movie, Brenda…maybe hubby would like it, too. I hope Charlie continues to do well. I know how much those two friends mean to you.

    Pat was a big part of my early blogging days. Since, we have lost Smiling Sally, Ceekay, and Balisha. They were all great ladies and exceptional writers. This has had many effects on me, too. We commented because we identified with the post. I love seeing blogger's homes, their words on decor, style, DIY projects…you name it. That's when I feel like commenting. I simply can't go where there is something promotional or transparent for hits.

    Love this post. Stay cool. Warm here,too!


  7. I love the blogging friends , I have met.. You are so right, we should keep it up.. We never know what tomorrow holds? I have met so many wonderful friends.
    I am sorry about Charlie's eye.. Hope the specialist will help him..

    1. The pupsters are ten years old. So seventy in our numbers. I hope so too. He looks downright pitiful with that long tongue hanging out one side of his mouth and a squinty dripping eye on the other side.

  8. Gran Torino was such a good movie with a powerful message. The ending made me cry…
    I don't have a blog myself, but enjoy reading yours, Brenda, and a few others. I have noticed the friendships among you and some of those bloggers. I wish I had the same thing in my life, but I am too private of a person to want to have my own blog….
    I sure hope Charlie's eye gets better. Keeping you both in my thoughts.

  9. That is the way I felt, too, Brenda. When I read about Pat it made me think of all the bloggers of bygone days. That is why I did a post to see if anyone knew what happened to several bloggers I had lost track of and that are MIA.

    Love your pictures-as always and that is a great picture of Pat. xo Diana

    1. Every time I run across a photo belonging to Michelle from Sweet Something Designs, I want to bawl. She's been gone over two and a half years now. Only 40 years old. Left those two boys and a husband behind. So tragic.

  10. I guess I don't comment on blogs as often simply because I am getting older and to be honest, I am tired, more tired than I was in 2008 when I began blogging. And so, over those 8 years a new crop of bloggers has grown and does things differently…new technology too. Sure hope things can be resolved with Charlie's eye… guess like us, he is getting older too. Time marches on for all of us… xox

  11. I think alot of the bloggers move on to Instagram and Twitter, and don't blog anymore. Maybe they think everyone moves with them to those platforms, but some of us don't have access to them or have phones that will do those things! Kind of sad really. I think Instagram is kind of a waste of time and just another way for things to move way to fast in this world! Same with Twitter.. .jabber jabber jabber and it's so fast and things come and go so fast.. no time to just sit down and savor someone's musing (like yours)!!!! It is so sad to lose a friend. And as far as our blogs, I always wonder what happens when someone passes away… does their blog just sit there and everyone wonders what happened to that person? I've seen a couple just stop and never any reason or explanation for it. I'm in the process of showing my hubby how to put a message on my blog should something happen to me (or when it does). I would hate to just leave everyone hanging like I've seen on others! Funny things we think about as we get older.

    Hope your Charlie's eye gets well. Oh… and I've watched Gran Torino several times and just love it. Clint plays it so well, and it's a real lesson to be learned. Thank you so much for your thought provoking blogs, and I'm sorry for you for the loss of a good friend. Take care.

    1. I don't know who would update a post for me if something were to happen. I bet three out of five new to me blogs I check have already gone under.

  12. I hope Charlie gets good news!! I have never seen that movie…looks good. Old friends are some of the best friends. I do try to keep in touch! 🙂

  13. I'm not a blogger … just a blog reader. But I do love to read a few blogs every day or at least whenever they are posted. Your is one of those … thanks for the time you put in on it. You offer good ideas and thoughtful things to consider. I like that!

    1. I'm thinking about maybe going back to my daily "journal" type posts. Probably won't be good for revenue, which I have to have, but I'm bored with the status quo…

  14. Change is good…that's why God created seasons.
    Just had my 50th class reunion and it was great seeing old classmates and good friends. We all promised to keep in touch but we will see what happens. People get busy with their own life and have a tendency to put old friendships on the back burner.
    Hope your pupster has a good doctor report

  15. I miss the old days of blogging, as well. Most of the bloggers I got to know, back then, have all moved on to something else. I find that sad, and somewhat disturbing.

    I do hope Mr. Charlie gets a good report from the vet. It's so hard to see our little friends suffering.

    Grace & Peace,

  16. You are so correct about friendships, and pat, and commenting, etc. I often visit you without leaving a note…but I am here and have not forgotten you and the pups. I appreciate your friendship! she

  17. Hi Brenda☺ I'm just getting back on the blog visiting wagon this week. I hope in time the vets will be able help Charlie's eye problem. I agree that time is precious and it is important to keep in touch with friends. That movie sounds like a good watch too♥

  18. Good Morning Brenda. I loved Pat. She was really a special lady. So sad to have to say good bye to her. I have seen Gran Torino and loved the message in that movie too. I hope you get good news on little Charlie.

  19. Brenda, I feel so bad about Charlie's eye. Such an ordeal. Good luck at your vet appointment tomorrow.
    Just so you know,I love your blog so much, but rarely comment. Sometimes, I just don't know what to say. It's such an important part of my life!
    I'm so sorry you lost your friend, Pat. So glad you are reconnecting with old friends.
    I haven't seen Gran Torino. Thanks for the recommendation.

    Thinking of you…

    1. You said exactly what I feel, sometimes we just don't know what to say so we say nothing and yes, this blog is an important part of my life. It is the very first thing I go to in the morning when I am having coffee, even before my morning devotionals and I feel so guilty that Brenda takes precedence over them, but I stumbled upon her for some reason. There are no mistakes in this life!

  20. Wow, Brenda, there is so much to comment on here. I'm glad you posted Pat's photo because now I realise who she is now, such a loss of a sweet lady.
    You are so right, blogging has changed so much. I went back last week and started revisiting some of the bloggers that I knew from the beginning. It's good to reconnect.
    I did see Gran Torino years ago. The language was bad but the substance was good. I sure hope Charlie's eye gets better real soon.

  21. Brenda, I really enjoy your blog, maybe more than you know since I don't always comment. I want you to know I appreciate your background story, resource information you provide, and your appreciation of cozy. The friends I have found through blogging are real, in spite of never having met any of them in real time. Happy November to you and your fur babies.

    1. I'm going to have to go back to being more of who I was initially and stop staring at my income numbers, though it is vital to my income. I kind of miss "myself!"

  22. Hi Brenda, times DO change, and we do, too. Thinking about it, it seems a lot of us started blogging around 2007 or so – that's nearly 10 years ago! Many folks have dropped out along the way, some of us are still plugging along, but not on a regular basis. I'm retired now, you'd think I would have more time to spend reading my favorite blogs but the time I used to spend doing that has been filled up with other things, it never ceases to amaze me how that happens. I'm also nearly 10 years older now, and for a face I don't have the energy I used to, or as much discipline as I had when working to GET THINGS DONE in a certain order, like I was in the military or something similar. The routine was sacred! Do this, then this, then this, work 7.5 hours, arrive home hour later, do this, do this, then this. Go to bed. Start all over again next day. For 46 years of working life. Necessary? I leave that to the philosophers to figure out. These days I spend practically no times checking out blogs that I used to visit faithfully, eagerly waiting for the next new post. Working around my house, my garden and yard, spending 4 hours a day reading news (luxury!), and watching home improvement shows streamed online from a pay TV source, and cooking, too. I cook more now than I ever did when I was working full time. I haven't done this yet, I will need to check it out – going through my own blog roll list and checking to see how many of those blogs are still active online. Maybe not many. I remember Pat's beautiful blog, and how much I loved some of her decorating. I was very sad to read about her passing today in your post. I think she had an impact on many of her blog visitors in ways she never may have thought about. You do, too. It's a cliche, I know, but it really is true that the one constant thing in life is change.

  23. I only found out about the loss of Pat the other day. I have to admit it through me for a loop.. She will always be remembered as a classy woman and never forgotten. Yes things change, my Buffy was my companion for 15 yr ans 2 months. Its amazed me since how nature continues on without a blink to what a great loss this was to me. The sun shine, the sunset turns to night, to clouds roll by and the birds sing and life goes on. I lost my friend but we will meet again.
    Sending healing light to Charlie and best wishes for his recovery.

    1. Thanks about Charlie. We went to the vet this morning and are headed to the specialist this afternoon. When I first heard about Pat, it felt like I'd been kick punched or something. I was just so taken aback.

  24. In today's fast paced world, it's all to easy to let time slip by without visiting old friends, whether it's online or in the physical world. I'm sure Pat's passing was a wake up call, and I'm glad you've reconnected with your friends.

  25. So true, Brenda. I miss the way it used to be too. Many of the ladies I really enjoyed are no longer blogging. You are one of the first blogs I found way back then and I'm so glad you're still here!

    1. And I'm glad you're still here with all your "blues". I just can't seem to get into Instagram like so many now. I don't know if I have a single photo on there. I love blogging itself.

  26. I miss Pat so much. As you said, such a class act.

    We watched Grand Torino when it first came out on DVD. Couldn't help smiling at the grouchy man opening up to let some compassion inside his soul.

    I hope Charlie's eye improves soon. I remember 6 weeks of driving my corgi twice a week, an hour away to a canine eye specialist, the cone he hated, and the several times a day of having to put various ointments on his eye. Not fun for him at all. But eventually it worked and I hope it does for Charlie too.

    1. If I'm not mistaken, I think I saw that movie first on DVD with my ex. But it really speaks to me. Yes, we're getting ready to head to the vet this morning. Trying to gear myself up for more visits and to a specialist if that's what they say today.

  27. Thank you for the reminder. Things around us do change and it is up to us to determine how much it should (if at all) change us. We do live in a virtual world and often times memes and quick "likes" substitute for stepping into someone's world. Sadly, we have been trained to accept said "likes" as a confirmation of the worth of our contribution. Here in New England the weather is cold and our leaves have turned and many have fallen. As you said, change is inevitable; maybe your post will generate a change for the better. Have a great day!

    1. I've always wanted to see New England this time of year. I've never been there at any time. I do hope this sparks some change, at least with "us oldies." Thankfully I have tunnel vision and don't even see "the likes!"

  28. Good morning Brenda.

    We love Gran Torino and have watched it many times. That's a great Clint Eastwood movie, for sure.

    I still love the friendliness of blogging. There are just so many more blogs now! I try to comment as much as possible and I know you do too. I miss some of the old ways too and have also been visiting old friends lately.

    The rush of blogging isn't fun to me. I'm already seeing Christmas stuff around and it's still 90 degrees here. I won't fuss though…I'll just move on.

    I hope you do get some pretty pictures at the park.

    1. The last few days, going back to bloggers I've "refound" and just reading about their lives has put things in perspective for me. I'm really tired of writing "SEO driven" posts. Which means those that people are searching for. Like "how to" do something.
      I want to go back to what I used to do. Just talk about day to day stuff and life. I just can't walk this treadmill anymore and stay sane I don't think.

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