If you’ve been a reader of home and garden blogs for long, you’ve probably discovered that the majority of bloggers are married. Possibly empty nesters, but usually married empty nesters.
In other words, you won’t find a lot of divorced women in this blogging genre. I am one of them. And I’m not EVER looking to change that.
When it comes to holidays, you won’t find a Norman Rockwell at the head of the table with knife ready to carve the turkey at my place.
You won’t find a lipsticked Donna Reid style woman with the perfect hairdo either.
In fact, here you will find just me and the pupsters. Because I happen to like spending holidays alone.
After years and years of being a part of family holiday dinners, I bowed out. These family affairs with various in-laws and people I don’t know make me anxious.
And that’s just not how I want to spend my holiday.
We all know that depression can really hit hard at holiday time. It is hard for many women to feel enthusiasm when the holidays draw near.
If you are one of them, let’s look at some ways to counteract this and instead, make it a time of celebration for one.
Plan a holiday devoted to just you (and your pets, if any).
Then you don’t have to worry about who doesn’t eat meat or might not get along with so-and-so. You don’t have to worry about whether to serve wine because Uncle George will drink too much.
It’s just you and a day to be celebrated however you choose.
1. Decorate for an audience of one
You only have to please yourself, so let that dictate what you do in your home. Your home is your castle. If you want to hang confetti from the ceiling, do so. If you just want a small tree on a table, plan to do that.
2. Plan your holiday meal to be anything you desire
Sometimes I schedule a pick-up holiday meal from my local grocery store. Some restaurants also make up meals for you to pick up and take home the day before. I’ve done that as well.
3. Light candles or in some way make it special
Play close attention to the ambiance just as you would if you had people over. Get yourself a special magazine or book to read later in the evening. Make some hot chocolate or tea or wine.
4. Get yourself a special present to celebrate
If Christmas is the holiday, then purchase a present you really want for yourself. If you don’t want or need anything, give to a charity you truly believe in.
5. Plan to pamper yourself throughout the holiday
The best way to thwart the holiday blues is to plan for it just as you would if you were expecting a dozen people.
Get the pets some special treats. After all, they’re part of your family.
Celebrate your holiday even if you feel a bit sad. Sadness is a part of life, as is grief. But happiness and celebration are a part of life too.
So celebrate in your own way. As little or as much as you want.
The whole premise is to do it your way. Just for you! I bet if you do, the holiday won’t be as sad. Instead it will be something to look forward to.
You are worth it, you know.