You know the type. They make life difficult with their lack of manners.
You think that they must have been born in a barn.
But we have to put up with them because they are a part of the society we live in.
Here are some tips to help you cope and simplify in a stressful world:
UNPLUG: This appears to be quite difficult for many people. They feel like they have to have their eyes on a screen most of the time.
Leave your phone in the car. We didn’t always have mobile phones. We managed. Go about your tasks and let your mind roam. Enjoy what is around you. Let yourself watch that mama bird feeding the babies in her nest. You wouldn’t see that if you had your eye on your phone.
TURN OFF THE TV: The world is chaotic, there’s no doubt about that. But what can you yourself do about it right now? Ask yourself that. Sometimes I listen to the news and it’s so disturbing I want to get up and bust the TV with a hammer.
Instead of resorting to violence, turn it off and do something you enjoy. Pick up a craft project you started. Rearrange your thoughts. Just be.
SIT & REFLECT: The dusting and the dishes and the laundry can wait. Sit near a window in a favorite chair and just watch what’s outside your window.
Even if you look out on a city street, you will see birds on power lines. Pigeons pecking at the sidewalk. Let yourself relax and simply watch. Feel your body relax. Focus on that feeling.
LET GO OF PERFECTION: I don’t know where we get the idea that everything must be perfect. But it causes stress to be this hard on ourselves.
There is perfection, and then there is good enough. Settle more often with good enough.
STOP BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF: I’ve done it. You’ve done it. We all do it. We hammer ourselves with our internal voice that we should have done this. We should have done that. But it’s done. You can’t change it.
Let it go and set your eyes on what is happening now. Live in the moment.
WORK ON REDUCING THE CLUTTER: The less things you own, the less you have to deal with. If you look around you and there is too much stimulation, you will feel stressed.
One room, one drawer at a time, begin to rid yourself of the detritus of your life. Keep only what is most important or essential.
LET GO OF THE NEED TO CONTROL: I know, if you feel in control, you feel better. It’s the fight or flight syndrome of the animal in the jungle. Eat or be eaten.
But we aren’t living in the jungle. Sometimes it’s okay to stop climbing the telephone pole to the very top so you can watch everything down below.
Then when there is an emergency situation, you will be relaxed enough to deal with it in a calmer fashion.
STEP OUT OF THE RAT RACE: Some people must go out into the world every day and work. But if you can find a way to work from home, all the better.
Unless of course being home is more stressful to you. Which suggests that you have work at home to do to change that.
Learn to pace yourself. Teach yourself moderation. Slow down.
USE COMMAS IN YOUR LIFE: That sounds silly I know. But visualize a comma as a pause. Learn to pause before acting or reacting.
Take a deep breath. Let it out slowly. Wait until your heart rate has slowed down before you do anything.
STOP FEARING DECISIONS: I know some people who simply cannot make a decision. It is so stressful for them that they are almost paralyzed.
Listen to your gut. Push away all the extraneous noise in your head. Force yourself not to stew every time you have to decide on something. Make the decision and let it go.
Once you start listening to your gut, it will start talking to you more.
But, you say, the world outside is just so stressful. Yes it is. So here are my tips in dealing with it.
Order what you can online so you aren’t faced with a store full of noisy people who act like they were born in a barn.
Bundle your errands together so you can go out less but get more done.
Be good to yourself. Treat yourself after a stressful day. Take a drive in the country (without a phone to distract. Turn it off).
Sit down with a book or puzzle or whatever relaxes you. Make a cup of tea or coffee.
Photography relaxes me. I add photos to my posts that don’t seem to have anything to do with what I’m conveying, but it is a pause in my conversation with you. It is a moment to relax before you keep reading.
Make a habit of carving out time in your day to do things that bring you peace and joy. Enjoy it fully, mindfully, with all your attention focused on what you’re doing or seeing or hearing.
Regret is wasted time. Whatever you feel regret for has already happened. Your chance to change the outcome is gone. Let it go.
Worrying is wasted time because whatever you’re worried about might not ever happen. Let it go.
Life is lived a day at a time. Learn to slow down and live in the moment.