Yesterday I spoke with Liz. She has found out more information about her husband.
First she told me that she went to pick up her mail and found a notice where he had tried to wire money to a woman in South America. Something went wrong with the wire transfer apparently, and it didn’t go through.
She doesn’t plan to show him this. But I’m sure the woman in South America will let him know pronto.
Follow the money trail:
Now Liz has the woman’s full name. She texted her husband and asked who she is. He will not respond.
He has been texting her a lot while he’s been away, and now he abruptly stops when a woman’s name is mentioned.
Second, she just learned that he took out a loan and also put her name on it. Isn’t that against the law? Could he have merely forged her signature? She doesn’t even know yet how much the loan is for.
The facts are coming at her quickly.
A Divorce is imminent:
She is adamant now about getting a divorce. But she can stay where she is for now and not pay rent.
Next thing is to get the nurses license in the state where they now live. Then she will be employed and no longer dependent upon him.
get the legal wheels turning:
It is very hard to come to grips with the knowledge that the person you loved and trusted for so many years has betrayed you. But you just have to put one foot in front of the other and keep moving.
I say take care of the legal stuff first in order to protect yourself and then mourn the loss later.
I’m still debating the steroid injection on Wednesday. I’ve tried to get an earlier appointment with no luck. Going all day without food is going to cause my acid reflux to go into over drive. So there’s that.
Yesterday I got a letter saying the neurosurgeon will no longer be part of that group as of January 1. He has moved his office. He may well switch pain management hospitals too, because this one won’t be anywhere near him.
They told me that it’s hard to get an appointment because they just lost most of their providers who do the injections. Why would the others have abruptly left all at once?
And lastly, I talked to my regular doctor’s nurse. She told me it’s the appointment with the neurosurgeon the doctor strongly wants me to have.
So maybe I should see him first in early February and get his take, since I’ve never met him. I’ve only seen his nurse practitioner.
I have accepted getting the injections. I just don’t know if I want it done there without meeting the neurosurgeon first.
I kind of want to hear a plan from his mouth and not just the nurse practitioner.
Also my health insurance policy will change January 1st. So I don’t even know if he will be a provider in my network.
Due to the holidays, no one will be back in any of the offices I need to talk to until Wednesday.
I Found An Obit:
I have found two obits for my ex.
It’s a bit strange. There were only three sentences. They both were very generic and did not mention that he was a doctor. They didn’t refer to him by his first name, but by his second name, which he sometimes used professionally.
It just said he died in his home and mentioned where he went to high school. It did not mention college or medical school.
It seems to me that is not much to say about a life. No achievements mentioned. No family mentioned, even a wife or children.
And no mention of a funeral. Doesn’t that seem a bit odd?
UPDATE: I just found a more detailed obit about his funeral.