Last night I watched 3 episodes of the Netflix show “Broadchurch.” I usually watch 1 to 2 episodes and then read a book. But the series was at a crucial turning point and the person who killed young Danny Latimer was being revealed.
The 38 year old man who admitted to killing the boy said he fell in love with 11 year old Danny.
You must be wondering, as I was, how a 38 old man could possibly think himself in love with an 11 year old boy? He said he had not molested the boy. But even if he didn’t harm him physically, there are other ways to molest a child that leave them traumatized.
Another type of abuse is called covert abuse.
Covert abuse includes any type of underhanded and deceitful behavior on the part of the abuser used to manipulate others in order to gain power and control.
Covert abuse tends to contain the following dynamics:
- Abuses occur “casually.”
- It is subtle, which makes it easy to ignore, deny, and minimize.
- It rarely occurs only one time.
- Interactions can include one or all of the following: criticism, boundary violation, sensuality, gas lighting, confabulation, or cognitive dissonance.
- The abuser tends to be perceived by others as a “good guy or gal,” friendly, or even above reproach.
- The abuser is very convincing.
- Victims become desensitized to their own experiences over time.
Definition Of Pedophilia:
The definition of pedophilia involves sexual activity with a prepubescent child or children, usually under the age of 14.
In order to be classified with this disorder, the person must be at least 16 years of age and five years older than the child or children for whom he has these feelings that are possibly acted upon.
In the small village of Broadchurch, everyone is suspect. People turn on one another. Long standing relationships are forever ruined.
Some experts propose that the causes are neuro-developmental. Differences in the brain structure are found.
According to research, these differences are similar to those of people with impulse control disorders, such as OCD, addictions and antisocial personality disorder.
Other neurological differences found in pedophiles included lower intelligence levels. And the lower the intelligence level, the younger the preferred victim.
Studies also found an increased level of pedophilia in those people who sustained serious head injuries as young children, especially prior to age six.
Another finding was that more pedophiles had mothers with psychiatric illnesses than the average person (Hall & Hall, 2007).
Then there are developmental issues that occur in these individuals more often than in the general population.
Sixty-one percent of pedophiles repeated a grade or were enrolled in special education classes (Hall & Hall, 2007).
You can’t discount environmental factors. There is much controversy over whether or not being sexually abused as a child causes that child to grow up to be a sexual abuser.
Statistics do weigh out indicating, that in general, more people who abuse children as adults were abused themselves as children.
Despite what children are taught about “stranger danger,” most child victims are abused by someone they know and trust.
The results of a three-state study of reported rape survivors under age 12 revealed the following about offenders:
- 96% were known to their victims
- 50% were acquaintances or friends
- 20% were fathers
- 16% were relatives
- 4% were strangers
(Advocates for Youth, 1995)
This is another Netflix show that I am truly enjoying.
The characters are well developed and have their own individual story.
The writing is compelling and there is always much to be learned about human behavior by watching how people react to tragedy.
I don’t want to spoil it for those of you who haven’t watched this series, so I’m not writing about events in the story line. But if you watch it, I think you will be surprised by who the murderer turns out to be.
It will leave you questioning everything you might have believed about ordinary people living around you.
Everyone has secrets. Everyone is capable of actions they don’t believe themselves capable of.
If you have watched Broadchurch, I’d love to read your thoughts.