Last night I was thinking about people who used to be in my life. And then suddenly life changed and for whatever reason, I never saw them again.
But I don’t lament those relationships. I believe that some people are merely passing through your life. And aren’t meant to stay.
There’s my first husband who I married at age 20.
I see him in Facebook photos that my daughters’ post when he comes to town to visit them.
What I remember most about 1st husband:
I remember he never really laughed. There was a sadness about him that never quite went away. It was as though he was defeated before he ever began.
I wanted to remain friends with him because of our daughters. But his new wife was very jealous and didn’t want anyone else near him.
Well, that’s hard to do when you have two children together. I recall he and I sat together at their high school graduations. Because she wasn’t in the picture back then and it seemed like the normal thing to do.
What I remember most about 2nd husband:
I was good friends with my second husband. But once we divorced I’ve only seen him twice in over 20 years.
There was no acrimony between us. We just drifted our separate ways and live in different places.
He could play almost any instrument. And he was a genuinely nice guy, a calm and peaceful man.
What I remember most about 3rd husband:
My third husband is deceased.
He was manipulative and drank too much. But he was obviously a great actor because I didn’t see through him for a very long time. What I remember most is being fooled by him in so many respects.
I never realized until almost the end that he was a functioning alcoholic.
The other day I told someone that I could probably walk into a stadium chock-full of men and manage to walk out with either an alcoholic and/or a jerk.
I’m naive in many ways. I believe what people tell me. And I try too hard to see the good in people, even if there isn’t much there to see.
I don’t seem to have the proper radar to read people. Because I have social deficits and don’t always understand what people mean.
I prefer animals. Because what you see is what you get. They love you unconditionally and are always glad to see you. There are never hidden motives or an agenda beyond being fed and loved.
I think back to friendships when my kids were little. When they were in grade school. Or when I was in college. I don’t know if those people I was friends with are dead or alive.
But we were a big part of each other’s lives for a time. We were important to one another then.
Our path changes:
I realize as we walk down the path of life we often change. And friendships sometimes change as well.
Such is life. Just remember that some people come into your life and are there to the very end. And others are just passing through.
But for whatever reason, they were a part of your life until they weren’t.
“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same. – Flavia