I brought this mirror out of the closet and put it on the coffee table. Then I arranged some candles on it.


Then I decided it needed a little something else. 

I had more of these glass pieces, found long ago at Hobby Lobby, in a baggy. So I sprinkled some around the candles on the mirror. 

Which look do you prefer?

I finished the Anne Tyler book. I’d forgotten she won the Pulitzer in 1988 for “Breathing Lessons,” her 11th novel. 

I want to find a copy and reread that book. I seem to remember already reading it twice.

“Back When We Were Grownups” is a great book to savor slowly. It involves a long-widowed woman in her fifties who starts thinking about what could have been.

What if she’d stayed with her fiance instead of falling for the man she ended up marrying? And losing in just six years. 

Anne Tyler creates dynamic characters and writes compelling dialogue. The kind that flows so easily that the characters seem real. Old friends you lost track of and suddenly rediscovered.

And then when the book comes to a close, you are sorry to see them go. The family you’ve come to love. 

At least I was sad to close the book. Wanting to know more.

Now I’ll start reading the last of the three books my daughter gave me last weekend.

“The Silent Wife.” Written in 2013.

Here’s a snippet from Amazon…

Jodi and Todd are at a bad place in their marriage. Much is at stake, including the affluent life they lead in their beautiful waterfront condo in Chicago, as she, the killer, and he, the victim, rush haplessly toward the main event.
He is a committed cheater. She lives and breathes denial. He exists in dual worlds. She likes to settle scores. He decides to play for keeps. She has nothing left to lose.

Told in alternating voices, The Silent Wife is about a marriage in the throes of dissolution, a couple headed for catastrophe, concessions that can’t be made, and promises that won’t be kept. 
Expertly plotted and reminiscent of Gone Girl and These Things HiddenThe Silent Wife ensnares the reader from page one and does not let go…It was the authors first stab at fiction, after writing four non-fiction books.

The sad part is that this author, A.S.A. Harrison, was at work on a second psychological thriller when she died in 2013. The same year this book came out.

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  1. Poor sweet Israel…such a good man…I guess he needs to stop doing things impulsively…more money is an important thing but so is working at a place you like and for people who like you…It sounds like he is confused and depressed but he needs to take his medicine…I also liked that you could count on him for help when you needed it…I hope he can get things all worked out in his head…I like the mirror and candles either way..it is very pretty!

  2. The first candle arrangement speaks to me. I have one arrangement in our family room that is so difficult to dust and I think the second arrangement you have pictured might make me a bit crazy to dust. The older I get the more I crave simplicity. I am so sorry to hear about Israel. He sounds a bit depressed which may be why he is not taking his medication. Let's hope things turn around for the better for him soon. xo

    1. Me too. I went to bat for him trying to get this job back before they hired the new guy. But he's left here once before and come back. So the answer was no.

  3. Poor Israel – I feel for that man, he hasn't had it easy, for sure. And no doubt he misses your chats and coffee, as I know you do. And now I have another book I need to read – can't wait!

  4. I like the candle arrangement with the colored glass. Israel sounds like a good man, hope he can find some happiness.
    Thank you for the information about the free Kindle book. I subscribed to book bub and I use the Kindle app on my tablet. I have some vision problems, so reading on a lighted device were I can adjust the font size makes reading a joy. Thank you so much, it has made a difference in my life!

  5. I've missed Israel and I'm so glad to know he has come by for coffee and a visit. I hope things work out for him. It's hard finding a job you like. I don't know that I ever read Breathing Lessons so must add that to my list of books. I'm hoping for a quiet week of reading and resting. December looks to be a very busy month for me.

  6. I like the 2nd arrangement with the colored glass. I mostly use flameless candles…I am absent minded and we have a cat and my Yorkie…so I am cautious with candles. I am sorry that Israel is not happy….it's a shame. He seems like a hard working fella, who deserves to be happy. By the way, I am enjoying the free Kindle books you gave some information about awhile ago. I was able to share the information with a lady who is retired & can't afford to buy books, but s he has a Kindle! I have the Kindle app on my tablet & smartphone. Due to vision problems it is much easier to read on my electronic devices. I even read the Bible on my tablet. Thank you so much for sharing that information.

  7. Darn it- I am really sorry to hear about Israel. I hope he can find some peace and contentment visiting family in Mexico. I think many of us can identify with not being where we thought we would be at any given age. Life sure throws us some curve balls sometimes.

    I hope you have a good Thanksgiving week and trust that you are eating with family for the holiday. Have a great night – xo Diana

  8. Sorry to hear about Israel; I guess he quit his job since you said he made a rash decision. He should have listened o you but maybe other people in his life told him other things, who knows.I guess you can help some people and some will not take your advice, no matter how good it is and how experienced you are in these matters.

    I like the second photo, with the glass pieces all around, only I would like only about half of them so I could see the mirror more. Have a nice Thanksgiving, Brenda!

  9. I like the second candle arrangement better. Why? I'd worry if the candles were moved slightly when dusting tge mirrors that 'waxy' scuff marks on tge mirror might show. That would drive me crazy. The glass pebbles would hide that until I chose another arrangement for the table.

    I think I need to read both the Anne Tyler books now. They look 'delicious'!

    Your comment about Israel possibly moving back to Mexico might be true. He came here for a better life for his family and is probably feeling like a failure at providing that now. Then again, the current political scenario probably has him worried, too. (I'm commenting as a Canadian.)

    I can remember how horrified I was the first time our car was stopped at one of those roadside check points in Arizona while driving between Tucson and Sierra Vista to visit his family after flying in from Canada. I had no idea what it was and was quite scared! My husband (American) calmly said, "Oh, they're just looking for Mexicans who've crossed the border illegally." As a Mexican, Israel is probably concerned about that kind of thing becoming more of the norm. It would be depressing to sways have to pull out papers proving you had a right to be where you already lived.

    Right now, a horrible ill wind has blown in and we're way below freezing now. A day ago, it was in the low seventies (Fahrenheit). I guess I had better go dig out my winter gear. ?

    I'm just wondering if you're still able to walk around in your shorts. That makes me smile. We live on the same Earth but Mother Nature treats us all differently. ?

    1. Well, he has his green card. If he takes medicine across the border, he has to have papers for that. About six months ago I insisted he go see a doctor. I don't think he'd ever used his health insurance. Found out he has diabetes. He'd never had his blood taken. Now he's not taking his meds again. When he was working here, I kept his medicine here and I made sure he took the right amounts every morning, because he just couldn't make sense of it. I asked him why he wasn't taking his meds, and he said: "I don't know." Kind of where he is right now.

    1. Israel is kind of his own worst enemy. He gets these ideas in his head and is stubborn as a mule. He can't see the forest for the trees. I talk to him and try to make him see the light on issues I know he will not like, because I know him pretty well. And he did exactly what I thought I would. And wanted to come back here. But it's too late for that. So he'll have to adjust somehow.

  10. Really sorry to hear about Israel and I hope things start to turn around for him. Books are so good. I read a few of the cozy mysteries on my iPad but I really prefer the real paper page turners. Turning a page just seems more satisfying than swiping a page, not sure why but it does to me.

    I love candles but most scents are so strong I end up not being able to breathe. And I enjoy breathing. i've found that the tea candles aren't so scent laden so I put one behind the fake flameless candles to get the same effect.

    1. Yeah, once I start reading real books, it comes back to me why I love them so. Then when it's hot, I want to read on the backlit Kindle to keep the lights off.

    1. Unfortunately I'm never in here at night. Between 5 and 6 p.m. my "schedule" is to do my yoga stretching, have a shower, and eat. Then it's back to the bedroom to read. Never varies. You could set a watch by my daily schedules.

  11. Sorry to hear that Israel is not happy at his new job. I picked up the book you read, "the Girl on the Train".. I have never read any of her work before. You take care & we'll keep Israel & his family in our prayers.

  12. I like the second one… PITA to dust, but what the heck!

    I'm sorry to hear about Israel ~ I hope he is able to get his feet under him soon. Let him know he has people cheering for him!

  13. Sorry to hear about your friend Israel. Sometimes life changes can feel sad and hard at first but then lead to better things in the long run. I hope for his sake he will find a place of peace in his work life. Have a great week as we lead up to Thanksgiving. Hugs to Abi and Charlie too.

  14. I didn't realize that Israel had found another job. Hopefully, he will gain insight to his future endeavors while visiting family. It's so nice that y'all have become friends. Glad to hear that you have found some good books to read. It's always nice to get swept away in a good story!

    1. My daughter gave me three books when I saw her last weekend. And I've quickly gone through them all. Nice when three books all turn out to be ones you really like!

  15. Love the candles on the tray…I think the pretty glass pieces add color, which fits perfectly with your decor. Hope Israel can find something he likes…changing jobs isn't always easy… I used to cross-stitch "A True Friend is the Rarest of all Blessings" on pillows. I would say Israel fits that saying.

    1. Israel seems to be very indecisive these days about a lot of things. I wouldn't be surprised if he decided to go back and live in Mexico at this point. One day he wants to do one thing, and then he changes his mind the next it seems. I think he's depressed.

  16. Good Morning, I like the first one the best. I just like the simpler look. I would love to read Back When We Were Grownups. I think it sounds very entertaining. I hope you have a wonderful Sunday and a very happy Thanksgiving.

    1. I went to get groceries on Friday because I don't like the crowds (a'tall)and so I don't know if I'm going to have chicken breast and stuffing in the crock pot for Thanksgiving. Or maybe something else from what I already have.

  17. i have followed israel's story here in past posts.
    now so sad. i wish the new job could be better for him.
    such a simple fine man who just wants to live and provide for his family.
    i remember when you gave him the coffee maker for his shop.
    little kindnesses. i'm sure just being able to talk to you as his friend gives a certain relief to his situation now. i hope the trip helps him.

    i will go to the library today and get 'breathing lessons' and 'back when we were grownups.'
    do you ever have several books going at one time? I am guilty of that!
    right now i'm reading agatha cristie's 'at bertrams hotel' and also reading one i've always liked by alexandra stoddard… 'gracious living in a new world.' i love her philosophy of living life!

    1. I don't tend to read two books at once. Too confusing for me!

      I tried to talk Israel out of taking this job. I knew he would be unhappy. But who listens to me?

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