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  1. Your plants do look great in the photos, as others have mentioned. I have about six house plants but they are all pretty small in size (Christmas cactuses, sansevieria and a very tiny pothos). It would be nice to have a big burst of green on these gray days such as your plants are providing for you. Maybe a trip to a plant shop is in order!

  2. Crazy stairs? Wasted space? I wouldn’t want my mom using those negatives to describe my home. Maybe this is part of the reason you have had a strained relationship with your oldest daughter.

  3. It sounds like your older daughter is a very intelligent and talented person but also that she never feels like she’s done well enough with any project. And the fact that she chooses to fill her life with stress and anxiety is telling. Because it is a choice as she demonstrated by rejecting your suggestion of some medication. Almost as if she is afraid that if she relaxes for one minute everything will fall apart and she will be at fault. What is the source of the fear, I wonder? But all you can do is make sure she knows you accept her as she is, want only the best for her and don’t judge her for her choices. The poor dear, I really feel for her because she can’t be happy or enjoying her life very much I wouldn’t think. I think you just have to hang in there with her making sure she knows you are on her side and that you love her very much, which I know you do. Boy, is it hard being a parent to our adult children? Yes, indeed. It makes wiping noses, changing diapers, feeding, bathing and rocking to sleep seem simple, doesn’t it? Of course it didn’t feel that way when we were doing it!

    The gallery wall around the fireplace is very appealing and well-done, Brenda. You have such a good eye. And your plants are so lush. I think your daughter definitely got her decorating eye from you.

    Just one last tho’t regarding perfection. I have always had a healthy streak of perfectionism and for many years it was a source of frustration in many areas. What I finally learned is that it is okay to strive for perfectionism but only in certain areas. Being a photographer I feel is an example of one of those areas where it is appropriate to want to produce a perfect image. Of course you still have to be willing to accept that it may not always be possible to reach the level of perfection you envision and not drive yourself and others crazy. The one area where I believe it is never appropriate to want or expect perfection is with people. We just don’t have the right to inject those expectations into our relationships. Humans aren’t capable of perfection I don’t believe; we need to be accepted as we are with all our shortcomings and foibles. So, getting that distinction straight was a real Ah-ha moment for me and changed my life for the better. I got off my own case and everybody else’s as well!

    With that I’ll say good night and send blessing to you and your daughters, especially your older one.

  4. You’ve frequently written about the troubles you had in marital relationships. Could it be your daughter sensed that tension while growing up? If so, its fairly common for people to grow up and not feel comfortable when things are calm. It doesn’t feel right not to be stressed. I totally understand that. Here the market is so competitive a home for sale has to have something that makes it special. People don’t want to even paint a room. They expect perfection and on trend. We hear times are tough but the majority are willing to pay a lot more for their first home than in the past. Its a bit mind boggling what are really luxuries are now considered a necessities.

  5. Your daughter might be a perfectionist, but I’m sure she feels a lot of pressure just by being in the real estate business and trying to compete with other flippers as well as new home builders and so on. It seems like such a competitive environment. I hope she can enjoy herself and it isn’t all stress.

  6. Whether a person is one who works for others, or their own boss, there are always scary, difficult times in life. From the time I was 4 yrs old, my dad had his own business…and all our married lives, my husband worked for others…either way life holds difficulties. Kind of a feast or famine existence, one way or another. Having lots of money won’t mean less troubles. You do have to reach a place where you feel enough is enough (especially if you have a decent place to live and food to eat, etc). Nice blog entry, Brenda…most interesting!!

  7. Brenda, everyday I look forward to the subjects you will write about. A blog is a great thing. Not for me though. Just isn’t in my nature to think up of what may (or will not) interest people. You are ? cool Brenda! To ✔compose daily doings is a real talent! That’s how I see it. As always ,,,,,, thanks for sharing your stories. ❤

  8. The pictures around your TV really adds to the overall look, you did a good job as usual.

  9. I’m saying a prayer for your daughter that flips the houses. She sounds like a great girl but anxiety and worry is a killer. I love what she does and her creative side. I don’t think the granite and extras are too much. Many people don’t have the creativity and vision to see what’s possible and she makes beautiful things happen.

  10. HI Brenda,
    I have two daughters too and they look different and are different in the way they are in life. Love the pictures around your TV with the farm scenes. That looks pretty cool.
    Kris

  11. Nothing is ever perfect….your daughter will make herself crazy trying to achieve perfection!

    I’m like you….I don’t need anything big or fancy….I just need a peaceful life with my sweet pups.

    1. She’s already driving herself crazy. While talking to me she burst into tears. I mentioned something for her anxiety like I take. And you know what she said? She said it makes her uneasy to be calm!

      1. This pickiness over things is probably why we were estranged for five years. She is just like that. I say forgive and forget and move on. Life is short.

  12. Wonderful post. And yes it can often be difficult to know when to stop and just let it be. I really see that in my painting. i’ve messed up several because i felt they needed just a little more. i can’t believe it’s been 11 yrs you’ve been blogging. i must have started w you in yr 10. And to this day i look forward to reading your posts!!

  13. Your daughter is to be admired for a “job well done.” She has encountered trades people and workers who do not know the meaning of that. I admire her ability to not just settle for “good” or just ok.

  14. It is the moments that truly count…so true! If we’re always searching for the next “thing” to make us happy, we miss all the ordinary everyday moments, which is what makes a contented life.

  15. You are so right! Often in life, done is better than perfect! Your daughter might consider bringing a flipper house up to building codes, make sure the basics like AC are working well, paint in neutral colors, and sell. Don’t bother with staging or fancy finishes like granite, that’s over improvement.

  16. I love the wall around the fireplace and tv, and I love cows and barns anywhere. Today’s post was very good, interesting to learn more about your daughters.

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