Yesterday my post was about me venting.

But soon after that I read a friend’s blog post and gained some perspective. Her cat has cancer. She’s every bit the pet lover that I am.

My heart goes out to you, Melanie.

I am so very sorry, my friend. We’ve never met in person, but have communicated a lot over the years. You once sent a gift for one of my pets and I was so humbled by that.

Yes, I’m in pain. But this too shall pass. I’d rather have this pain than the pain of losing a beloved pet.

People out there are dying; that gives me perspective. Who could have ever imagined that in two years time, so many Americans would be dead from COVID?

Our maintenance man, the one who said he wouldn’t put that s*** in his arm, now has COVID. He had plenty of time to get the vaccine, but for whatever reason, he didn’t.

Do people really think they’re invincible?

I know people are tired of COVID, but there’s nothing we can do about that. It is real and we must deal with reality. And if that means vaccines, then it just does.

Just because you’re tired of something does not mean it will loosen its hold over you. There is no correlation between being tired of something and it going away.

Younger people still don’t seem to get it. And I guess we just have to let them learn through experience.

As you age, you know you’re not invincible. You have aches and pain and you become more fearful for your health.

A Friend’s Heartbreak:

My cats are healthy. Melanie is such a good a pet parent. She gives her cats everything they possibly could need. She is diligent in their care.

I’m still grieving Charlie. I still cry every time I see his photo or think about him. And I know that feeling of waking up every day and wondering “if it’s time.”

Until that time comes, Melanie will also wake up with that thought on her mind. And that is bone-crushing agony. She has also lost a child, and I can’t even imagine that.

Melanie, you gave me some perspective of my own situation. And I thank you for that. I’m sorry it comes at such a high cost for you.

I will hold you and Brian (and Monkey) in my heart.

Perspective: the capacity to view things in their true relations or relative importance

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  1. My thoughts and prayers go out to both Janice and Melanie. I’m so sorry for both of you. There are no words, but please know I care. We all care.

  2. I have been praying for you Brenda, and Melanie, as I too follow her blog and I am so heartbroken for her beautiful Monkey… the day before yesterday I lost my beloved 8 year old kitty Chance with whom I had such a special, close bond with and I am still crying! Thursday right before dark he slipped out when I opened the door; he has been an inside kitty all his life and about an hour later my neighbor called and told me he was hit by a car crossing the street to get back home… And Janice I will be praying for you as well; your loss is unimaginable loosing your long time boyfriend, Bob to covid/pneumonia and your little fur baby Nina within a couple of days of each other. Brenda your blog followers are an incredibly loving compassionate and caring group of women whom I have learned many things from over the years that I have been following your Blog from reading all their comments….

    1. I’m so sorry you too had such a terrible loss. Janice and Melanie are going through unimaginable pain. As you are as well. I will keep all of you in my thoughts. Of course you’re still crying. It doesn’t matter how long you cry or grieve. I’m still crying over Charlie.

  3. Thank you, sweet friends. I consider myself a strong woman but the events of the last few days have been almost too much to bear. My only consolation is knowing that Bob and my baby Nina are no longer suffering, and that I have caring friends like you. I love each of you!

  4. Oh Brenda…your post made me cry. Thank you so much for your compassion and support.

    I don’t know what else to say; I am greatly humbled by your kind words.


  5. So, so sorry for your loss, Janice. It must seem like just too much to bear. Be very kind to yourself and allow the grief to take its own natural course.

    You are so right, Brenda, we must keep a perspective on our individual trials and practice acceptance of whatever the situation. But sometimes it is really hard to do that. Then we have to be gentle and accepting of our myopia and try to love ourselves in spite of it. All challenges. I hope your pain has been better today and that you are giving yourself space to rest.

  6. My 20 year old Chihuahua, Nina, died yesterday. Two days ago, I lost my long time boyfriend to covid and pneumonia. My heart is broken into a million pieces.

  7. It is heartbreaking to learn of another pet that is going to be walking over the rainbow bridge. I read Melanie’s blog also, and had tears when I read that Monkey has cancer. As many times as we as pet owners, endure the loss of a pet, it just never gets any easier. Knowing they have led a loving and happy life, living with us, does help, but it doesn’t make it easier to say ‘Good Bye’…
    Wishing you a good weekend, Brenda. Moving day….getting closer. Yea!

  8. Well said Cindy, our thoughts and pairs are with you Brenda. You are a very articulate and compassionate person. Adding Melanie also to those prayers. Covid has at least woken a lot of people up to be kind and compassionate to others. Hang in there Brenda, help is coming in February. Have a great day!

  9. Brenda we are all human and when we are in pain it helps us to share our feelings. It shows you are such a compassionate person when you realize others are dealing with mental and physical issues also. Sometimes it just becomes too much to process and live with. Thankfully we can share our troubles and have comfort by connecting with each other. I hope you have a good day. Our thoughts are with Melanie.

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