Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. It will be different this year because of COVID-19.

But it’s also different for some of you, and certainly me, because we are alone. Inevitably we may remember feelings of a past love anyway.

I suppose that’s natural.

I wrote a post earlier about what to do on Valentine’s Day if you’re alone. I’ve explained how to honor thyself and thus treat yourself to a special day.

Differing Feelings About Valentine’s Day:

What I didn’t do in that post was delve into your differing feelings on this day. How bittersweet they may be. Or how you may be swept up in grief.

Love, as we all know, is complicated. It feels good. And it also hurts like hell. When you’re in the beginning throes of burgeoning love, the world is alive with color.

You can’t stop smiling. The stars seem to shine brighter. Everything around you is touched by that magic cupid’s bow of love.

But then sometimes things change dramatically. That love can turn into grief or bitterness.

To Have Loved & Lost:

Alfred Lord Tennyson is famous for this quote: “It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

That is probably true. I am glad I had the experience. That there was a time when it seemed like my feet didn’t touch the floor because I felt so happy.

Though those feelings are dimmed because of how things ended, I can’t deny those feelings were once there.

Choose To Remember The Good Times:

So let’s choose to only remember the good times on this Valentine’s Day.

It’s okay to recall those feelings that made you feel light as a butterfly. Floating through the air, flitting from place to place, alight with love. It’s okay to remember.

Here are a few quotes about the differing feelings you may have tomorrow. Allow yourself to feel any that apply. Allow the words to fill you up and then let them go.

“At times in life you have to leave people where they left you.” – Angel Moreira

“What the heart has once owned and had, it shall never lose.” – Henry Ward Beecher

“Though these words will never find you, I hope that you knew I was thinking of you today….. and that I was wishing you every happiness.
Love Always, The girl you loved once.” ― Ranata Suzuki

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The Time Traveler’s Wife

“Long ago, men went to sea, and women waited for them, standing on the edge of the water, scanning the horizon for the tiny ship. Now I wait for Henry. He vanishes unwillingly, without warning. I wait for him. Each moment that I wait feels like a year, an eternity. Each moment is as slow and transparent as glass. Through each moment I can see infinite moments lined up, waiting. Why has he gone where I cannot follow?”

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I'm Brenda, creator of Cozy Little House. I live with my cat, Ivy, who keeps me laughing. I graduated from journalism school with a degree in professional writing and won awards for feature writing. I practice gratitude and enjoy my solitude. The glass is always half-full.

7 Comments

  1. I think for many people, those truly awesome breath-taking times in life, yes, in love too, just do not last very long. And for me, came infrequently. We never know what to expect do we? There is just no sure way to know. So enjoying whatever good we can, wherever it is, is all we can do. I do really anticipate the next life being one where all our hardships here are forgotten for the joy there just sweeping away all the sadness of here. Some days, we get a breathe of that land to come. Enjoy them to the hilt!! I like your ideas for ways to enjoy what is a hard day for so many these days.

  2. Always loved ❤ Valentine’s Day that held special memories even as a child.
    Now I enjoy a great meal with my oldest sister & our pups! We talk about the fun and loving 😃 memories in our lives! All sorts of ways to reminisce on Happy 💘 Heart’s Day!
    P. S. Brenda ,,,,,, You mentioned one of my favorite (fantasy) films!
    Haven’t seen for awhile.
    I just might do that!!

  3. Good perspective on this special day for lovers. I look at Valentine’s day not only with a significant other but with our children, friends and pets too. All we love to be celebrated not just a spouse or significant other. We will enjoy dinner with our daughters and grands tonight and all the doggies 6 doggies all together tonight. My sil will make lobster tails and baked potatoes and we will all just be together to share our love for Valentines day. Tomorrow Terry and I will be bundled up up throws in front of the TV with the temps only going to be 6 degrees. We have been watching Wanted a great show if you want a good brit series to see. It is about two unlikely women thrown together in an unfortunate twist in life. Very good. Last Tango in Halifax is good too we finished that too. Just a few for you if you have not seen either of these yet. Have a good Valentines with your fur loves.

  4. I will miss my husband of 47 years and I will remember what it was like in the beginning, like you said, when I felt so in love and walking on air! I am in a good place now and happier than I have been for years!

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