There are many reasons why someone ends up hurting you. But mostly it’s because they’re hurting themselves. And they can’t find a safe place to put it.
So they stumble upon a sturdy vessel and fill it with their sadness.
But he is unable to fully love you because he hasn’t yet found a way to love himself.
Your strength becomes his crutch.
You are now carrying around more than your own burdens. You’re trying to hold up your weight as well as his.
But you will eventually break under that weight, regardless of how strong and loving you are.
Because, you see, he may have problems that are so distant the years have skillfully buried them.
And then something happens, a trigger, and they rise to the surface and obliterate everything else. Even you.
You walk along the shore, sand squishing through your toes, hand in hand, trying to keep that spark alive.
And then a mighty wave comes and covers you in its swell.
He may falter first, his sadness and agony too heavy to bear up under the weight of something so much stronger.
And suddenly you are swept out to sea with him.
You will fight against the onslaught of water while scrambling to find him in the rolling waves. Even though you can’t swim, you will not hesitate to risk your own life.
You will do your best to lift him up and carry him to shore.
And I know you won’t hesitate to do that. Because you love him.
But sometimes love is not enough to overcome his pain.
Please stop when your strength is being diminished inside his well of sorrow.
Say I’m done when the candle flickers inside you and threatens to go out.
Because you can’t love someone into being happy.