I may not be a very social person, but I do know manners. And it seems manners are often seriously lacking in this day and age.
This morning I dropped Charlie off for acupuncture.
When I left Charlie with the vet and walked to my car I stepped into a big mound of dog poop. It is a small parking lot and I can’t see why anyone would just leave that there for others to step on and possibly track inside.
I opened the door and made them aware of this so they didn’t have to deal with it all day. People tracking dog poop in and out.
Then I often treat myself to an iced coffee at McDonalds. A less than $2 treat and one I look forward to.
After I drove through McDonalds and picked up my coffee a car had stopped right in front of me. Apparently they’d stopped to dress up their coffee.
It is only one lane after you drive through, so there’s no way to go around someone.
Why not pull into a space? Then you wouldn’t block people behind you and at the same time hinder the line at the window.
Then yesterday afternoon I went to the Braums not far from here because I forgot Charlie’s eggs at Trader Joe’s the other day. I drop in there a lot to pick up this and that.
There is a man who works as a cashier there who’s probably in his mid to late forties. I don’t know his name but he’s worked there for years and we’re always friendly to one another.
Yesterday I mentioned Charlie going to acupuncture, and he proceeded to tell me that acupuncture is a bunch of nonsense. That it doesn’t really help anyone. That I’m being “played” and they’re just taking my money.
I was caught off guard. I told him I thought it was helping Charlie and had been since May. He said something else was helping him and acupuncture just has a placebo effect.
I was beginning to not only be stunned by his comments, but a bit angered. I told him he didn’t know anything about it. He could believe what he wanted to believe. But that I wouldn’t be paying for this if I didn’t think it was helping him.
He said why don’t you just put him out of his misery. Okay, that’s going a few steps too far.
I told him Charlie was happy and if and when the vet (Dr. Poteet) tells me he’s suffering, then we’ll make that decision together.
This went on and on. Maybe he’d had a fight with his girlfriend. Maybe something happened with his daughter.
But keep your mouth shut about my dog!
I was very upset for a bit, but after I calmed down I realized he should feel worse than I did. And if he didn’t, then something was wrong with him.
I know I get on my little soapbox from time to time to bemoan the cell phone users who have lost all sense of whatever manners they once might have had.
The fact that they often ignore the cashier who is probably making minimum wage and don’t even bother to get off their phones to say “Good morning” or “Hi, how are you today?”
I may be blunt, but I know the general niceties one should have with strangers.
I wish I could say it’s young people who are still wet behind the ears who have these unfortunate traits. But just as often it’s people my age.
Is there something about cell phones that dim their manners?
I read a child psychologist say that if you hand a cell phone, etc., to a child, you might as well hand them cocaine. Can you actually become addicted to cell phones and the like?
I’ll have to do some research on that. Because to me a cell phone is there for emergencies and I have no desire to become fused to one and have it front and center at all times.
These electronic devices weren’t around when my girls were growing up, thank goodness, so I didn’t have to deal with it. But when do people actually acknowledge one another? Do they talk at the dinner table?
Do children and parents merely text one another and rarely speak?
Has this fast paced society eschewed manners in exchange for expediency at all costs?
I can be contrary when it comes to things like this, I know. I can be impatient with people who seem to have left their manners at the door.
Am I alone in thinking manners in general have been pushed to the wayside? And why?