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  1. Brenda, I love the look of the distressed bed and it goes well with the rest of your decor. I agree on not having delivery people in one's home in the evening hours; I generally will avoid having that happen, but I have a very feisty Chorkie named Molly who doesn't like strangers in our home and lets anyone that she doesn't know is made aware of her presence! Carol

  2. I'm glad you weren't hurt when the bed fell. Surprises like that are not the way to wake up in the morning. Don't you find the cost of almost everything astonishing? It kills me to pay so much for things that aren't made to last.

    As to being uncomfortable with strangers in the house, I am not. I was born and brought up in Philadelphia. It was so safe (we thought) in our neighborhood that we slept on the open porches in the summer when I was in grade school. By the time I reached high school it was very different. We locked our doors and stopped letting service people come in if we were alone. It is sad that the world has changed so much. Now, I keep my doors locked when I am home even when I am not alone.

    Enjoy that new bed, it is very pretty.

  3. Brenda,

    I love your new bed! I am sure that it looks fabulous.

    I am with you about people in the house. I am so much more cautious in my old age. Almost to the point of paranoia. I just has this conversation the other day with a friend. When I look back on the things I did when I was younger, like traveling Europe most summers, sometimes alone, sometimes with friends. Meeting people on the trains and accepting rides from them, staying in b &b that seemed a little suspect. I cannot believe that A) I was so stupid, B) that I am still around. I I do not know when I became so much more cautious but I am now. I do not let anyone in the house if I am here alone .

    Hope you are enjoying your new bed.

  4. Beautiful!
    Get lots of rest on it:)
    Same here,re:strangers at and around the house,no dogs but I don't have a tuxie cat that growls at odd things,
    I have a good neighbor who I share an entry hall with,he wouldn't let anything happen.

  5. Hi Brenda, I'm new to your blog and already can relate! Budgeting, being single, etc -love that you are so real! Thank you! B

  6. Hi Brenda,
    This bed looks great. I love the distressed look to it. Sorry your other bed broke but this new one is very pretty.
    Glad your SIL could help you out with picking it up and putting it together for you.
    Kris

  7. Beautiful bed Brenda! So glad you or the pups weren't injured when your bed broke. Love the distressed look. I've decided that our next bed will not have a footboard like our current one does. I'm not always successful about navigating around it in the dark. LOL. Enjoy your pretty bed … the white is lovely!

  8. I just found you and so enjoy your blog. I think we do get almost OCD about safety as we grow older, but I also think this world is not as safe as it was when we were younger.
    My husband and I sold our big house and moved to a tiny house in a tiny town in Northern CA. I had not thought things through really well. I am a avid sewing creationist. This new home doesn't have room. But, I love the coziness of our home. I sure enjoy your thoughts on cozy living, plus everything else. Thanks so much for your beautiful writing. I'd like to be able to share in that way.

  9. Sorry about your " rude awakening", but I really like your new bed. I hate it when I have to make unplanned purchases, but stuff happens. I have been dawdling over a new mattress even though I know I need one.

    1. No, you sure don't. My ex had a patient who had a car for sale and put an ad in the paper. He was gone and his wife let a man look at it. The man killed her.

  10. I've actually woken up that way at least twice in my life – once in quite a spectacular fashion ;- I'm grateful you had helpers to bring this new item into your home! …. As for being cautious – hmmm. I know when I still had two dogs in the house- big ones, too – I hired a workman to put together some furniture pieces for me, and I was fine with him UNTIL he asked that I not be one of those lonely women who hang on him – excuse me?! I kept my dogs very close to me until he was done AND truncated the to-do list, also!

  11. We have never actually bought a "bed". We simply use a metal frame ($79) to put our boxspring and mattress on. And then all you have to do is buy a headboard – or create one. Much cheaper.

    I hate having servicemen in the house when I'm alone. I purposely don't schedule anyone to come in my home unless Brian or Tim or home. I don't know what I'd do if I were a single woman. Probably get a neighbor to come over when the service guy showed up.

  12. The bed looks very nice. I hope it can serve you for many years. As for repairmen and others coming into the house, I probably was more trusting when I was younger than I should have been. Fortunately nothing bad happened that I can recall. Nowadays, I definitely think more about it. But I do know that you have to be cautious of women as well as men. I have elderly relatives who have had women caretakers steal money and drugs from them. How sad.

  13. The first thing I thought of was your pupsters and glad neither of them were under the bed. Your new bed is quite attractive and I'm glad it's also comfortable too. When I lived in NY, in a nice quiet neighborhood, I went out during the day for no more than 15 minutes. When I came back, a guy was running from the back of my house. Long story short, there were two of them who broke into my house and stole jewelry and other items . They were caught and I found out they had prior charges of home invasion during the day and beating an eldey couple. Since then, I trust No One! It's good your SIL saved the day for you!

  14. SORRY ABOUT YOU RUDE AWAKENING. YOUR NEW BED IS LOVELY. YOU DESERVE A GOOD NIGHTS SLEEP. I HOPE NONE OF YOUR "underbed storage items" WERE DAMAGED, WHEN THE BED SLATS FAILED.
    LOOKING FORWARD TO SEEING PICTURES OF THE NEW LOOK IN YOUR BEDROOM.
    IN THE 6 YRS. WE HAVE LIVED IN THIS APT., I HAVE ONLY HAD DISH SATELLITE IN HERE TWICE, AND THE MAINTENANCE MAN IN HERE 3 TIMES. JIM PUT IN OUR NEW HIGH RISE TOILET, REPLACED OUR KITCHEN FAUCET AND MOST RECENTLY REPAIRED THE CENTRAL AC (just had to come in to check air temp). I REPLACE MY OWN AC FILTERS AND DON'T HAVE ANY INSIDE PEST CONTROL DONE. IF THEY DO A GOOD JOB OUTSIDE, THE BUGS DON'T MAKE IT INSIDE. I HAVE NEVER SEEN A BUG IN HERE, EXCEPT FOR A CRICKET OR TWO THAT SNEAK IN, AND I SCOOP THEM UP AND RETURN TO OUTSIDE.UNFORTUNATELY WHEN ONE SUFFERS FROM ANXIETY/PANIC DISORDER, IT IS VERY STRESSFUL WHEN ANYONE "INVADES" YOUR SPACE. IT CAUSES ME A LOT OF DISTRESS AND MY YORKIE, CRICKET DOESN'T LIKE IT EITHER, A VERY GOOD REASON TO KEEP PEOPLE OUT IF YOU ASK ME.
    ONE CAN'T BE TOO CAREFUL THESE DAYS.
    BETTER TO BE CAUTIOUS, THAN SORRY.
    SNUGGLES TO THE PUPSTERS

    I

  15. That new bed is great. Really like the headboard. Just perfect for you. Nothing matches in my bdrm and that's ok. I agree I worry about being alone now and service people. But so far been very lucky. I've had some really nice people. I never mention my husband died. But in wanting to sell things people say to use Craigslist Or Let Go and I don't want strangers coming over.

  16. Brenda, that's a nice-looking bed. But wouldn't you like it better if you painted the boards alternating red and white?? Just kidding! The tho't popped into my mind and I just couldn't resist!

    It is a nice-looking bed but I bet it's going to look a lot better in your bedroom with the quilts and other items that will warm it up a little. What a shock to wake up on the floor like that! Did it upset the pupsters? I'm just glad none of you were hurt. And now you have a more comfortable bed. Yay!

    You know, I don't think it occurs to me to be afraid of delivery people. Maybe I should be, but I usually ask for identification or they give it before I ask and I really don't worry. Perhaps I am too trusting, but that is pretty much how I respond to most people I don't know and I've never had anything bad come of that approach.

    Have a good weekend, Brenda!

  17. I had one slat fall on our bed many years ago and it just about scared a years growth from me. I can't imagine what that was like for you. Has anyone else noticed about the time we think we have bought all we need and are set for the rest of our days everything starts to break down or wear out(or we are tired of it). I like the bed you selected, I think it goes well with your room. Can't wait to see the picture of it in your room.

  18. I imagine that scared you and the pupsters to death to wake up like that! I hope you are all okay. Sometimes our two cats will sleep under the bed but I never thought of something like that happening. I love the new bed and can't wait to see it with your quilts on or around it. They will look so good with the distressed look.

  19. Hi Brenda~

    That must have been a little scary to wake up like that, especially with all the crazy things happening in the world. I would have suspected an earthquake if it were in my neck of the woods! I'm so glad your weren't hurt!

    I really like the distressed look, and it will look so beautiful with your quilts. My grandmother always told me that there were two things in life that you absolutely needed – a good bed and good shoes, because if you weren't in one, you were in the other! So glad you are getting a better nights sleep.

    I'm not a single woman, but I don't like strange men in my house when I am alone. Just this morning a car with two men pulled into the driveway, and I was a little concerned. My husband had just left, so I was home alone. I think they were just lost, but it is unsettling to have strangers in your yard or home, especially as we get older, and more vulnerable.

    Gorgeous photos!

    Hugs,
    Barb

    1. I know what you mean. You just wonder what people in your driveway are all about. Are they lost, or are they getting ready to rob you?

  20. the bed you chose is perfect for your 'cottage!'
    but even more so… for your back. it sounds like you made a wise choice.
    I also have a full bed. I would never go back to a queen.

  21. I've always been cautious about letting people in the house – men or women. Nowadays a weapon levels the playing field. I like working with companies that send you a photo of who to expect when they show up at your door. This is why I hesitate to use Craigslist or anything like that.

  22. Talk about a way to take 10 years off one's life, waking up with a bang, wow! I too am a single bed user, but all of my beds are ancient (one from the 1970s, the younger one from 1991). I rotate those 2 in the guest room. When I downsized to this current home, I splurged and bought a metal campaign style bed in full/queen size from an online discount vendor, and my handyman put it together for me the day he also installed the ceiling high curtain rods in my "mistress" bedroom. I use a full-size mattress, thankfully you can still buy them! I'm fortunate in that I can afford to hire a handyman for things I can't manage myself, and as I get older, I am more leery of taking on some projects by myself. I haven't had any deliveries here after dark, except UPS, and those are boxes left on my side porch so that's okay. I haven't felt uncomfortable with delivery people (all men thus far) coming to the house, or any problems with them, and I've never felt uncomfortable with company reps who come to give me quotes on windows, siding, concrete work, stuff like that. I am, though, leery of using Craigslist to try and sell my excess stuff after reading several "horror stories" online, and as a consequence if somebody in my family doesn't want it, it ends up being donated to Purple Heart.

  23. That would have scared the life out of me.
    I really like your new bed.
    Yes I don't trust people I don't know anymore. I'm cautious now more than ever. I don't go to places alone like I used to.
    Stage safe.
    ❤️

  24. Yes, I hate to admit it, but I find myself being a lot more cautious now that I am in my 70's. I recently sold my old living room furniture on Craig's List and I worried about who might come to see it. Luckily, the first couple were very nice and they came early in the day and bought it and I could stop worrying.

    1. I would like to shop Craig's List. And if I had someone to go with me, I might. But I'm too scared to walk into an unknown situation.

    2. I'm scared of Craig's List too, but our town has set up a spot in the police station's parking lot for people to handle deals like that. It is always lite up and on camera plus someone's there. It might not work for big items like furniture though but you can meet there first at least.

  25. I think between getting older and feeling more vulnerable and the way the world seems to have changed, I am super cautious about delivery men in my home. Lucky for me my son in law is very helpful to me and my Mom. I like the new bed and glad it has more support!

  26. I have never had a bed break in my life, that must have been a rude awakening!!

    I am being much more cautious lately about letting men into my house. I never had much of a concern before until this July. A young man from the pest control company I use came to do their regular application. When he was done he knocked on the front door and asked if he could wash his hands. I thought this was rather weird because they NEVER ask that but being stupid I said sure. He then proceeded to ask me a very blunt sexual question which was very offensive (and I'm not easily offended). I said get the F out of my house and then I complained to the company. They asked if I wanted them to fire him, which I did but we both though better of it because now, he knows where I live and he might retaliate. They said they will send him back through sexual harassment training and he will never come to my house again but it still made me nervous to even complain.

    So… long story short… I am being much more cautious now!

    Tania

    1. Wow, that man should have been fired. Immediately. Sexual harassment training? Do they think that will change his actions? Horrible.

  27. Yikes!! The bed is lovely, yes, I like distressed a lot. I have a dark bedroom set and dust is Always there in the nooks and crannies. I hope the mattress holds you, Literally, in good stead. I am married and I've always taken the policy to be careful with workmen in the house when my husband can't be there for the repair, etc. I'm ok with it, I guess, not completely comfortable, though. We like our privacy, too, and are happy with the repair is done and they are gone.

  28. That must not have been a very fun way to wake up, Brenda. I'm sure the pupsters weren't too happy about it either. But I really like the bed you chose and it sounds like it will be much more comfortable for you.

  29. Good grief, Brenda! You didn't get hurt, did you? Well, the new bed is really pretty. Glad it gives you more support.
    I don't like repair/delivery people in my apartment. I have been like that my whole life.

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