It is raining this morning in Tulsa. The skies are overcast and the ambiance this morning fits my mood. I do feel a bit stronger every day after the shock of Gracie dying.

So today I’m not going to dwell on that sadness. I’m just going to do my typical post about what’s been going on.

Lunch At Kendra’s New Place:

I took lunch over to Kendra’s new house yesterday. There is still much to be done before it’s totally finished.

She doesn’t want me taking pictures until she’s farther along. She’s not even to the decorating part because it’s really not there yet.

Thankfully the master bath shower has already been dug up and fixed. The plumber used the wrong kind of pipe.

When Kendra asked him about it, he told her she intimidated him and it made him nervous.

I just can’t picture a man saying that to another man, can you?

But Kendra, who is about 5.2 and weighs around 100 pounds, scared him so much that he just couldn’t think straight. Interesting.

It was an expensive fix for her, but she said not as bad as she had originally thought.

What I understood of it was that the original pipe he put in would not have eradicated the gases that come from the sewer. That’s what he had to replace.

All this is out of my scope of understanding. Above my pay grade, as people often say.

Her House:

Her house is cute; about 1600 square feet. Interest rates went up at the last minute so her mortgage is close to $3000 a month, and this is weighing heavily on her.

Because she has other mortgages to cover on properties she’s purchased.

She may have to sell a rental property to try to keep up with all the mortgage payments.

New Restaurant In Town:

I picked up food at a new place called Nachos Business that’s down the road from me. Kendra hadn’t yet heard of it. It will be a good place to get food for her kids when they’re at her house.

The nachos were in a long box. They gave me several bags of food in containers to dress the nachos up with. There was shredded pork, cheese sauce, avocado, pickled onions of some variety, and cilantro.

It was so big that Kendra can lunch on it for days.

Her two little dogs are getting used to the new place, and she’s closed on the house she was in before. So at least that’s done and behind her.

Thoughts On Surgery:

I’ve decided I just can’t put surgery on my schedule right now. The surgeon only operates on Fridays, and then there’s Kendra’s surgery in mid-May to consider.

After losing Gracie, I just feel depleted. I just don’t think I have it in me to take on such a mammoth task as surgery right now.

I think I’m just going to wait until that new custom boot comes in and try that for a while.

It’s been close to a month since they took measurements, so it shouldn’t be too much longer before it’s delivered to my doctor’s office.

Ankle Injection:

My doctor put an injection into my ankle last Wednesday.

Relief wasn’t instant. It took about 24 hours, but at least the pain is no longer as bad or constant. I know it probably won’t last long and that you can’t get this kind of injection often.

He told me he wanted to do it so he could see what specific areas need fixing, by my response to the injection. He can’t see everything on the MRI because of where the tendon, etc. is located.

I told my doctor that I do not want my ankle fused, so there will have to be another solution that I’ll go along with.

The radiologist who read the MRI had to make some assumptions. Because the tendon is not where it can be fully examined unless the ankle is opened up.

My doctor/surgeon called me last Thursday morning to ask how the injection was doing, but I missed his call because I was taking out my trash.

So when they call me about the surgery, I think I’ll tell them all this and hold off for now.

At least I haven’t had to wear the boot much after the injection, and thus my hip is better.

I have an appointment with the chiropractor for my hip in just over an hour.


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  1. Glad to hear you got out to spend some time with Kendra. How awful she had to spend all that money on his error. It sounds wise to put off the surgery, until you’re in a better place. Hopefully the new boot will give you some relief.


  3. I’m glad you were able to get out and spend some time with Kendra and others. The plumber was intimidated by Kendra – oh brother that’s poor excuse for his shoddy workmanship. Ridiculous.
    Putting the possibility of surgery off is a very good idea. Try the new boot and see if that helps.

    By the way, I love the lamp with the beads.

  4. Giving yourself a minute sounds like a good approach. That way you can trial the new boot, shot they gave you, and then still be available fir Kendra’s surgery if needed. You may consider going ahead and scheduling a surgery date after her surgery in a few months. That way you won’t have to wait a long time to get appt once you do all these things and still are no better. You’ll be upset if you are ready then find doctor is booked out a few months! Just sharing from personal experience. Hang in there and try to give yourself grace in the meantime.

  5. Oh, the new restaurant sounds yummy Brenda except the cilantro bc it tastes like soap to me! Yuck! Lol

    You’ll know when the times right if u need surgery or not. I don’t blame u for putting it off now bc surgery is serious business!

  6. I think it’s a good decision to hold off the surgery for now because of your grieving and because you want to be there for Kendra’s surgery. I think it would not have been enough time to recover before being helpful for her. But that said, I hope you will go ahead with it when you and your doctor feel you’re ready.
    Thinking of you.

  7. I hope your chiropractor can help with your pain. I get stiff in my left hip and down to my left knee if I sit too long. It eases when I move about. I also have lower back pain but my right knee is not giving me pain like it did last winter. It’s got me stumped but I am not complaining!

  8. The fern print – I don’t remember seeing it before. It’s beautiful – it almost looks like it is a real preserved fern, it looks 3-D to me. Ferns remind me of summer and forested areas around lakes and shady backyard gardens. I find it amazing that doctors can makes hips and knees in patients about good as new with artificial parts and physical therapy, but they can’t do much anything helpful for your ankle? Surely there is joint replacement surgery for ankle parts too. I did read that cortisone shots are used sparingly because they can actually cause more tendon damage! Geez Louise.

  9. Brenda, I believe you are making the right decision to postpone surgery for now.
    There is too much going on in your life right now.
    I am in awe of all the decorating you have done in your new home. You have a great eye for decorating.

  10. I think you are making the right decision. My surgeon wanted me to take some time til my life was a little calmer before my hip replacement surgery(Loss of my son to Covid and my Covid ICU . I thought that was thoughtful and a good idea. I’ve had my surgery and the doctors and PT are surprised how well I’m doing.
    That’s too bad about your daughter. I think it’s awful when people take advantage. Good for her for being intimidating.
    Also, you just moved and have been doing more than usual. No ladders!

    1. Debby,
      I think I remember you mentioning before about losing your son to covid. I am so very sorry! I can’t even imagine! There really are no words. I just wanted you to know how sorry I am and that I was thinking about you.

  11. Glad you were able to get out for a little distraction. The lamp in the top picture is so cute!

    I am still feeling sad about Gracie. She was the most beautiful kitty, and you posted the coolest photos of her. I hope you draw a bit of comfort knowing that she had a really good kitty life.

  12. What a line of garbage. He took advantage of her and he was looking for an excuse for his shoddy, cheap work. Oh that ticks me off. I’m glad she’s knowledgable!

  13. Hope they can figure out something for you that is not surgery to help you with your ankle pain. Sounds like it will eventually have to be surgery. You have had a lot of things lately so I do not blame you for wanting to wait for any kind of surgery.

    1. I think you’re very wise to hold off on surgery. You’re right—it’s not the kind of thing to go into depleted.

      Still shocked and grieving FOR you over losing Gracie. 😢

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