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  1. This was such a great read today. I didn’t want it to end. Your writing speaks to me. You are such a strong woman and endured a lot. I so appreciate you sharing your life with us.

  2. I think the older I get, Brenda, (pushing 80, now) the more I realize that everyone sooner or later has their lemons to figure out what to do with. I’ve been given quite a few in my life, but somehow have managed to go on and either make lemonade or put them in the compost! It’s a matter of choosing to move forward in the midst of despair and not stay mired in regret or anger or envy or depression. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean to imply that it’s easy to go forward because it’s not. It takes an act of courage and will. And if your lucky, the help of those who care about you and the willingness to allow their love and support into your heart and soul. It takes enormous bravery. You have that bravery, Brenda–no question. It comes through in much of your writing and is evident in today’s post. Brava, brava, brava, Sister! Thanks for your openness and willingness to share your journey.

    1. Loved this: “either make lemonade or put them in the compost!” Thanks Naomi!

  3. Very well said. I don’t know of many (probably not any!) people that haven’t been “handed lemons” somehow in their life. Some people are hit harder than others, that’s for sure, but we don’t get to decide WHICH lemons that we’re going to be handed. Or how many. Just yesterday, I got in touch with a friend that I hadn’t talked to in about 8 years. Asked how he was doing. Turns out, he had gone through a divorce AND lost his home and all his belongings in a flood and was homeless for year. He’s back on his feet now, but holy moly.

    That’s why we should always treat everyone we meet with kindness…as they say, you never know what someone is going through.

  4. It is indeed a shame that some must learn such hard things when still so young, Brenda…you are to be commended really for all you have become!! My mom used to quote me that saying too…and its very true. I was very loved by my mom…but you see, I was born a woman…a fatal flaw to my dad really…tho as my mom used to tell me, that of all the females on earth he loved me most, as I was his own flesh and blood. It has taken years to figure out that he was quite mentally ill…I do think he loved me…but it was a limited love. And truly? I have NEVER EVER longed to relive my childhood. Though adult life has had lots of hard places too…and still does (isn’t that mostly what life is for most people?) at least there are some very good times not marred by abuse. I am grateful to be old now. Very. I wish I felt young…but ah, we cannot have it all, can we? You are blessed with writing well…thanks for sharing!!

  5. What an inspiring post. Sharing your past with us not only shows what a wonderful and strong woman you are but, more importantly, it may be quite helpful to hear for anyone going through similar things at home, with friends, in the workplace…Sometimes we all need a reminder that everyone has struggles, no matter how “picture perfect” their lives might superficially appear, and that we are not alone in this world. We can make lemonade from our lemons w a little help from the outside (friends, family, community…) and pure grit and faith in ourselves. Have a lovely day Brenda:-)

  6. After reading your blog today I saw a sign in Country Sampler that says “Don’t let the tall weeds cast shadows on the Beautiful Flowers in your Garden”…thought it was fitting for your thoughts today…blessings always💕

  7. WOW Brenda…your words are awesome and so very touching today. You have turned around 360 degrees in your lifetime. You are an AMAZING young woman, and should be very proud of yourself! I know “we” all are!!!
    Your photos today have feelings, the swing most of all.
    Hugs from Wisconsin!

  8. You’re a survivor. You have accomplished wonderful things. You’ve raised great women and overcome lots of obstacles. Creating this wonderful space proves your generosity and kind spirit. Hugs to you

  9. Very well put Brenda. I had a beautiful life until fifteen years into my marriage. I was then dealt the “lemons”. It was a very difficult time trying to keep the piece and feeling like I was not good enough. Finally after forty seven years of marriage God knew I had enough and couldn’t take it anymore and he took the “lemons” away.

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