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  1. My husband is suffering from NPD Found it after 25 years of abusive marriage relatioship which leads to make me Narcisist victim SYNDROME
    I stayed BCZ OF MY KIDS

  2. Keep getting this name site out there me , my sister,my daughter could have used something like this years ago as you can see it seemed to be a pattern. We have overcome.

  3. Great post, and I will re-share. It hits close to home for me as you know, and I still have nightmares about The Abusive Sperm Donor even thought I got away from him years ago. The memories never really go away.

  4. Great post Brenda. I was in an abusive relationship with my 2nd husband. He was mostly verbally and mentally abusive which I think sometimes is just as bad, there were a couple of times of physical abuse but mostly the other. I got to the point that I didn't care about myself or how I looked, I was wearing flannel shirts that were too big and jeans all the time and felt like no one would want me because I actually started to believe the horrible things he used to say. What finally woke me up was when my daughter witnessed one of his rages (he usually did it when she was asleep or not around, just like the quote above about witnesses), she was about 6 and I realized then I had to get out because I couldn't let her grow up thinking this kind of treatment was normal. My ex is medicated for bi-polar now and remarried. I think he is better or at least I hope for the sake of his new wife he is.


  5. My Father was the abusive man in my life. He made me, my sister and Mother's lifes Hell. My Mother never left him, but I got out of that house as soon as I could at the age of 17. And here I am in my 60s with the memories of the bruises, beatings, and terror, just like it was yesterday. Thankfully, I married a very kind man that has never laid a hand on me in 40 years. He changed my whole perspective of men and I live a happy peaceful life with him.
    Thank you, Brenda, for writing about this subject as it is a difficult one. The whole family suffers when there is an abuser in the home. Alcoholism fueled my Father's rages. My Mother was too scared of him to leave. She was dependent on him for everything and had no faith that she could live on her own. Divorce was a big stigma in her generation sadly…. She died young, due to stress I believe.

  6. This is an incredible post, Brenda. I knew a woman years ago who was in an abusive relationship and I sat her in my car and player her a song about strength and she broke down and cried. And we talked, and talked. And eventually she took her boys and left – I was so proud of her! It's better to be alone and a single mom than to be with someone you're afraid of.

  7. Inspiring, Brenda… I agree so much with that quote about how abusers are very much in control of their anger. Especially when there are witnesses.

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