Today I’m writing about a reader’s loss and grief. Oh, I know grief up close and personal.
One of you wonderful readers, Wendy, had to let her dear Dexter go yesterday. I already knew what time they were going to the vet. And I tried to convey my empathy over the miles at that time.
It’s so very hard to let them go.
I often get emails when people have lost their beloved pets.
They are our children, our babies. Heavens, they are with us every single day!
I told Wendy she might want to order the book on grief that I ordered when Abi died. It is called “Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief,” by Martha W. Hickman.
Martha herself died in 2015. She wrote the book in 1994. But of course there is no expiration date on grief.
We are all with you, Wendy. Reaching out to you across the miles. We are here to give you strength during this horrible time.
And today is also the anniversary of 9/11, when tragedy struck and so many people died.
Excerpt From “Healing After Loss” For September 11:
It is not enough just to be still.
But if we are quiet and listen to our own stillness, how can we prevent all those other things rushing in? We can’t always. And that’s fine. Sometimes we need to pay attention to those sad associations and memories too.
But sometimes it’s good to ask them to leave for awhile. And pay attention to our own being. One classical way to do this is to breathe with great care and deliberation. And attend only to that.
We may find this a good way to “ease into” our own stillness. A sense of our own body, mind, spirit, in this space, alone.***
We are all here with you in spirit, Wendy. I’m so very sorry for your loss. Your Dexter has crossed The Rainbow Bridge. He’s with my dear Abi now.
Change In Charlie’s Medicine:
I talked to Dr. Poteet earlier in the week and he said to give him Theophylline in the morning. But to skip the evening dose.
He also said Charlie getting up so many times at night might be something else. It might be part of cognitive decline.
So I’ve been following his instructions, and Charlie isn’t as fidgety anymore.
Whether from sheer exhaustion or the fact that Charlie is sleeping more at night, I’ve been able to get more sleep. And I feel 100% better for it.
Charlie is right next to me, squished into the chair, sleeping. He seems to be having an easier time of it. The weather has been cooler and that seems to help.