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  1. Great post Brenda. I wish a good friend of mine could accept the fact she has been divorced 15 years and now lives alone. Try as I may to encourage her to see her life is not over just different is not working. I’ve been married over 40 years so she feels I don’t understand. Like I tell her, my life is not perfect and I’ve had to deal with many losses and difficult times. Anyway reading all the positives you list here made me think of her.

  2. I realize this is off topic for this post but I wanted to make sure you saw it. I’m looking at ordering the clippers you recommended awhile back. I would really suggest you look into becoming an Amazon affiliate. If I’m buying something because of your recommendation there’s no reason why you shouldn’t get a bit of compensation. It does not affect the price your readers pay and it may help offset your blogging fees a bit. Just my 2 cents worth.

  3. Brenda, in my opinion, this hands down is the BEST post you’ve done so far. I simply love your ability/choice to see the good in everything. My mom is 93 & just moved to assisted living. Her whole life she’s always focused on the negative. I would love to see her do some of the things you suggest here for herself. My sister and I try and put positive spins on things hoping to cheer her up but it never works. She’s always unhappy. Your entire outlook on life is open to possibilities and ideas to improve your life any way you can. I totally understand it’s my mom’s personality but it’s just disheartening to watch her not enjoying her life to it’s full potential. It’s true what they say, “happiness is an inside job”. Bravo to you for prioritizing your own self care and encouraging others to do the same!!!

    1. Well it used to sort of be my personality. You have to really work on it. Fake it till you make it.

  4. Wonderful ideas and your choice of photos is spot on!

  5. Pampering oneself on a special day is always a treat! But I often pamper/spoil myself anyway, it doesn’t have to be a holiday 🙂 Flowers from the floral department at my local Pick ‘n Save market – what a mood enhancer this time of year when everything is covered in ice, snow and is dormant. They always have specials and the flowers can last for 2-3 weeks, especially if you buy yourself carnations and some greens. I really used to love to take a candle lit long bubble bath in the evening of a special day – or any day, for that matter – but now I find it too difficult to get in and out of the tub, so I’m restricted to showers. Don’t get me wrong, showers can be luxurious too, but just not the same lay back and ahhhhhhhhhh kind of vibe. However, an extra-long shower and a bit of splurge on the water bill after you’ve washed your hair and have it soaking in conditioner for 2 whole minutes as you exfoliate your heels with a pumice stone as the warm spray “massages” your back – yeah, I’ll take it! I also will make myself a favorite dish. During the summer especially I will pull out my mini-charcoal grill and do up a filet mignon while I make up a nice crisp salad. In the winters here, just too much effort to pull out the mini grill and get it all fired up, not to mention I hate the cold! So I’ll make some chicken cacciatore, the classic recipe for impossible cheeseburger pie, a cheeseburger casserole, or my version of a chicken or ground beef Shepherd’s Pie. Wine is a necessity of life, not a luxury 🙂 I will, however, on occasion, buy some special ice cream or a chocolate velvet cream pie. Just planning and shopping for my goodies is an automatic good mood enhancer. And when the special “Pamper Day” arrives, all the better to have everything already on hand. I will play my favorite music on my computer while cooking, watch a favorite movie or two in the evening and light a fire (even in summer, unless it’s like 90 outside) as I snuggle into the sofa to watch. Lots of candles (battery operated and live flame – but live flame only if I’m in the room while they’re burning). Also, staying up until midnight or as close as I can get to it before I zonk out is a big thing for me, LOL! Yes, I know, I know. But usually I’m in bed between 9 and 10 p.m. as I’m one of those people who somehow can’t manage to sleep past dawn. (I get a lot of sleep in the depths of winter here, LOL!) The classic song “Little Things Mean a Lot” is really true, especially these days.

    1. I hate the taste of wine. Can’t even handle champagne. So that’s not for me. A nice iced tea will suffice for me. And I can take a pretty short shower since I shave my head! I treat myself a lot anyway. But many people do not. They put themselves last. So at least on this one day, do the opposite! We really have to learn to treat ourselves special every day.

  6. Hmm… I never would have thought of indulging MYSELF for Valentines day. What a great idea! Thanks. A special day
    Of pampering myself will do wonders.

  7. Best. Post. Ever.

    Sending lots of Valentines love to you and the furries!

    Thanks for being uplifting during these heavy times Brenda.

    You’re an inspiration every day.

    Your babies, human and furry both are so fortunate to have you as their own.

  8. Brenda!! What a fabulous post – thank you so much.
    I found myself smiling the entire time I was reading. I even thought to myself ‘well why not’!!! I’m going to think long and hard about how I’m going to indulge myself because I matter!

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