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  1. Thank you for introducing us to Ms Gill. Her words were a balm to me today. My Dad was buried last Wednesday. I found a Reverend to speak at his service and she did a very good job, but before the service, at a time when I was so sad, and experiencing total emotional overload, but still holding it together, she called me into a separate room to speak to me. I assumed that she needed some more information about my Dad. She did ask another question or two about Dad, but then went on to tell me that I should really lose weight and my husband should, too. And then she went on to tell me how she had lost 100 lbs. As overloaded as I was already feeling, I was stunned by this. Like I had been hit by a club. I was in such a weakened state both mentally and physically at that time, due to lack of sleep for several days before, while my Dad’s condition worsened, and grief, I could only respond with, “Yes I do need to lose weight.” Just then a family member came to see where I was and if I was ok. So I went back to greet visitors and be with my family.

    Now one week later, I am more myself and I am so tempted to telephone the Reverend and tell her, nicely, that she should never do that to anyone else again at their loved one’s funeral. My husband said I should probably just forget about it and leave it alone. I may send the reverend a copy of one of Ms Gill’s poems along with a quick note instead, because I know that I will never be able to forget about it.

    1. I’m so sorry for your loss. She shouldn’t be in her position if she can’t show true empathy. Think about either calling her or send a poem and let her know why it’s important. This woman needs to know she should not do this, although no one should have to tell her, so she doesn’t continue to treat grieving people like this. What a shame.

  2. Thanks so much for sharing! I’m anxious to read more about her and her work.

  3. Beautiful words! I will remind my daughter today how beautiful and kind she is. Thank you for the post, Brenda!

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