Good Times With Old Friends

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There’s something about good times with old friends that is unmatched and irreplaceable. The joy of rediscovering someone who once knew you so well, and the tenderness of realizing that no matter how much life has shifted, the bond has endured.

At first, there was a pause, a heartbeat of disbelief, followed by broad smiles and laughter that bubbled up before a single word was spoken.

You notice the changes: grayer hair, softened voices, lines etched by living. But then something deeper surfaces—an old spark, a familiar rhythm in the way they smile or tilt their head. Beneath the years, the person you once knew is still there.

It’s raining outside. I slept later, lulled by the dark skies and the patter of rain on the roof.

When the light is dim, as it is today, I enjoy the light that comes through the gauzy living room curtains. Through them, I see the next-door neighbor’s tree leaves, dark against the gray sky.

I imagine the neighbors, those who don’t go out into the world every day, will stay cozy inside their homes while it rains.

“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same. – Flavia

Mulling the Past & the Future:

It’s days like these when I feel more reflective, mulling the past and the future. Thinking about what I should have done, and might do in the years ahead, however many there may be. I suppose these kinds of thoughts are more prevalent as you age.

Vaguely, I recall when Kendra was a baby. I attended college and babysat two young boys during the afternoons and evenings while their parents were at work. Sometimes I wonder where those boys, older than Kendra, might be today.

What did they do with their lives? Where are they today? Are they still among the living?

My old friend Rhonda attended the last class reunion, although her parents had moved before she graduated from high school. Those people are just vague recollections and dim figures to me.

Every time she smiles and her eyes light up, I can see the young girl she was then. She drove here on Tuesday, and we spent the afternoon together.

Rhonda’s Life:

Rhonda has been retired for only a few years. Before that, she worked for a bank here in town for 45 years. She’s one of those people who manage to stick it out and stay the course. She was responsible for the care and financial responsibility of a boy a year younger than Kendra.

Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if we’d reconnected way back then, just a few years after we went our separate ways.

Strange to think that, distance-wise, we were so near one another all this time and didn’t know it. Probably life wouldn’t have looked as scary if we’d had one another’s backs as young mothers. But we went in different directions and led different lives.

Now here we are, older, no longer those clear-eyed, giggling girls, and our children have families of their own.

A Fiercely Independent Woman:

Rhonda lives in her little house, about 15 miles away, that she purchased many years ago. Her parents moved around so much that she wanted to stay in one place.

I wish I’d taken the road she took and been more independent and self-reliant.

While I was still trying to find my way, she was purposefully striding through life, firmly accountable to herself and her boy. Her many family members. I’ve never known someone with so many relatives far and wide.

Some days, I wake up and think how fortuitous it is that we found each other again. I could have saved myself a lot of grief, I think, had we reunited when she was going down her steady path and I was still floundering.

I know she would have helped me get back on track. She would have taken me by the hand and led me to firmer ground. She’s one of those people who take control of things like it’s second nature.

I feel so grateful to have her back in my life: a positive force, a caring soul, someone who will be there in a pinch.

You should have seen her when I fell off that big step onto the concrete at that restaurant. She took over quickly and scolded them about their lack of safety measures with that steep step.

She drove me home and went around my house, opening and shutting doors and finding bandages and antibiotic cream. I sat down to gather my wits.

My Personal Florence Nightingale:

Rhonda was my personal Florence Nightingale, patching me up after that fall. She is the kind of woman who doesn’t mince words; she just gets things done.

Days later, she called the restaurant to see if they’d taken any action to rectify the unsafe situation.

It’s strange to be out and about with someone who wasn’t in my life for over half a century. We have such a good time talking and laughing. It’s great to pick up where we left off so long ago.

Reuniting with old friends feels like time folding in on itself—like the years apart dissolve the moment eyes meet again.

Not seeing someone for fifty years is like carrying a shadow memory—faded but never gone. Decades pass, and life layers itself with new faces, places, and responsibilities, yet their presence lingers in quiet ways. In an old song, or a fleeting resemblance in a stranger’s face.

There’s joy in finding each other again, yet a tender ache for the decades that slipped by unshared. Time feels both cruel and generous. Cruel for stealing so many moments, but generous for allowing you this one.

“An old friend is a safe place, a reminder of home, and a piece of your history that stays with you no matter where life takes you. They are the people who don’t just know your story – they helped you write it.” – Author Known

Just remember that some people come into your life and are there to the very end. And others are just passing through.

But for whatever reason, they were a part of your life until they weren’t.