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  1. Brenda, I’m a long time reader and I don’t plan on going leaving.
    I don’t comment often but I read every post you make & gave been for years.
    Is it possible that you could get a motorized chair? Would you be able to get around inside your apartment? And, if dr ordered I think Medicare pays some if not all….next thing, I was thinking, if you got motorized chair, could you have your car equipped with a carrier….or even get a van that allows the door to open up & you drive chair up into it?

    I have no real knowledge about these things but have seen other handicapped people with them……
    Just thinking about ways that might give you more options of mobility.

    Hugs Brenda!

  2. Brenda, it may have been a “book” blog today, but I enjoyed reading every word of it! Truly! I’ve really been missing your daily posts! I can’t imagine I’d stop reading your posts voluntarily. If you stopped posting all together, I’d miss you terribly! It’s hard to not do all the things you used to easily do. Your mind still says you can do it, but your body says you can’t. It’s like slowly losing your independence and you’re fully aware of it. It’s frustrating! But your advice, as usual, is spot on. You’ll be much happier and better off, the sooner you realize you must live within your physical capabilities. Otherwise, you’ll drive yourself crazy, or push yourself too far and really hurt yourself. And as you pointed out, if you’re looking for it, you’ll see there’s still plenty of things you CAN do. It’s important to concentrate on those things, rather than what you can no longer do. You have really sweet friends. I hope you never have to move again. I can’t imagine you’ll find a more wonderful group of friends and neighbors. And they’re just as lucky to have you, as are we, your faithful friends and readers.

  3. Brenda, enjoy reading your blog. It speaks to many of us going thru some of same concerns as you. Age and health problems have slowed me down. Like your title: Focus on what you can do. I have to remind myself of this each day. We are blessed to live in tech age where we have many advantages to help us stay connected with world. I love to spend time flower gardening, but now spend more time with computer, iphone, kindle, streaming movies, pinterest and like other programs, especially exercise programs. Can order groceries online. So we make adjustments to our life as we go thru many stages of this journey. I also enjoy Church and Bible Study Groups which helps me tremulously. Hope you will keep blogging , you are interesting with many good ideas to share with us.

  4. Mary from PA says:

    Brenda, everyone has said it already, but just to add my appreciation and gratitude for your posts, pictures,Ivy,and originality. Your blog is authentic life.

  5. Brenda, you are so right about adapting. I have strong feet, ankles, and legs. I can stand and walk and go where I please. I have some different things I need to adapt to.
    My path has cancer to deal with. The poem below is so helpful to me. Perhaps others would like to consider it as a way to think about their own situations.
    What Cancer Cannot Do
    Cancer is so limited…
    It cannot cripple love.
    It cannot shatter hope.
    It cannot corrode faith.
    It cannot eat away peace.
    It cannot destroy confidence.
    It cannot kill friendship.
    It cannot shut out memories.
    It cannot silence courage.
    It cannot reduce eternal life.
    It cannot quench the Spirit.
    ~Author Unknown

    1. Thank you for this poem.

    2. That is beautiful and so true! Thank you for sharing it with us.

  6. Elizabeth says:

    You have described so well what we too have been and are living through. Not our choice, but we get to adapt. Trying always to find a few things to be grateful for. I think your location as to friends and neighbors sounds ideal. Your yard area is beautiful. WE too continue trying to find ways to cope and do things differently in order to cope. Dreading when we no longer can manage. Grateful for the doc here who has Summus laser treatments that have SO HELPED us with pain, arthritis and otherwise. Sending you all good wishes as you traverse a similar path to ours.

  7. Brenda, Your blog is the only one I receive since I “met” you many years ago in a Country Sampler issue of you, your beautiful home and your precious little dogs. Your decorating is inspiring and your writing is always interesting with all the little happenings in your day. I’ll always read your blog and I hope you will have relief from the pain. We have cats too and I always enjoy seeing and hearing little stories about beautiful Ivy. Take care!

  8. Wendy C ,Bribie Island, Oz says:

    Long time reader here and will keep reading as long as blog. Don’t comment often but always read. Take care, 🤗

  9. Thank you for being you, Brenda—honest and kind and inspiring!
    I love your blog even tho I don’t comment often. I am 76 and my hubby is 80. Our theory is that our bodies were meant to work, and that’s what we do—not like we “used” to work, mind you, but we try to keep moving. We saw what inactivity did to my parents, although they both lived into their 90’s. I hope you can find someone to help with the pain so you can keep moving and feel better.

    Wish I could stop by for a piece of cake–such a neighborly gesture!
    Sending hugs…Jane in Florida

  10. This was an interesting day. So sorry to hear about tour pain and complications. I had to give up driving in September. That has been a huge adjustment. Friends have driven me places and I have two or three I can call on now. My voice is giving me problems again. The speech therapist told me more than likely it will heal because it did before. That cake sounds delicious.

  11. Brenda,
    I won’t leave you. I enjoy your blog so much! Infact, it is the only one I read. I enjoy reading about your life and the everyday things that happen. I enjoy your decorating, gardening, and Ivy! Most of all I just enjoy the everyday mundane things. That is what keeps me coming back! You have so much great advice to give to others and you have helped me in so many ways! Thank You! Have a great evening!

    1. *In fact, oops!

  12. Bonnie Schulte says:

    Brenda your blog is interesting to read no matter what you chose to write about. Others have said, and I agree, you write with words that seem to flow so beautifully. Never boring, to me, for sure. A picture of Ivy, the photo of the two jugs, your garden area posted today, all of it is so nice to see, and your heart felt words today touch home with most all of us. I know I am blessed at age 84, and I am able to do most everything I want to, and I don’t take it for granted. I have a few aches and pains, but not anything I have to worry about. I feel so badly for you, but so happy you have moved and found new friends that are so very nice. Maybe your doctor will come up with something that will help you with the pain. We can hope for that, and I hope that Steve will also be on the mend quickly. Maybe when he is better, you will both have a chance to get out for a short ride. Till next time, Hugs from WI

  13. Reading your blog a littler later today but I just had to respond. I agree with Jan being done with fancy blogs with a whole new set of everything’s perfectly displayed every season. The friends you have reading and commenting enjoy reading everyday just like we would check in on a friend everyday. I am not an avid reader like you but we have similar interests and that keeps us connected. I like hearing your day to day going ons. Wishing you a good week.

  14. We age and things change. We do what we can-when we can and send up praise for what we can do.
    I am watching my husband decline and his world has become smaller and smaller but he is doing okay mentally….and that is important.
    Day by day, Brenda….day by day—-Diana

  15. I’m not going anywhere, Brenda. You’ve been my blogging friend for a loong time. I may not do blog posts often anymore, but I do still read certain blogs on a regular basis, yours included.

    I am just so sorry you’re in so much pain with your ankle and back. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all go away. Life can truly suck sometimes. Big hug to you.

  16. Hi Brenda. I don’t post often, but do enjoy your blog. The eloquence and beauty of your writing is a true gift. I’m sorry you’re living with chronic pain. I have the normal aches and pains of growing older, and my back “goes out” here and there, but for the most part, things are good. Keep writing your wonderful posts, and I hope you’re able to find ways to continue doing what you love, albeit in a modified way. Sending well wishes!

    1. It is what it is. I’ve accepted that. Sometimes I have fairly good days. Some are horrible. But it isn’t going to stop me from doing what I love. Then pain will have won.

  17. Years ago I followed quite a few blogs, but over time they were changing their decor what seemed like every few months and I thought “how can they afford to do that?” I mean with really fancy furniture and accessories – and all of them were young women, not women in their more mature years. Who lives like that unless you’re rich or have sponsors willing to pay for most everything – constantly. Those blogs had no relation to how most people actually live, including me. I gave up on them, dropped them off my list of sites to visit years ago. I can’t imagine dropping your blog. I don’t always comment, and sometimes I may be a day or two late in reading your latest entry. Your blog reflects real life, especially for women who are getting older (but more refined and precious, like fine wine, that’s how I look at it, woo woo!) and who may have some physical/health issues that may slow us down, and cause aches and pains, but doesn’t stop us. I really appreciate the compilations of various websites and blogs you put together weekly, I’ve gotten too lazy to go hunting around on the internet these days for inspiration, and I wouldn’t visit Pinterest either but they send me emails everyday with things they think I might like to look at. And I often do check some things out but again, that’s somebody else doing the work and taking the time to do it instead of me doing it myself 🙂 I also appreciate the garden you’ve worked so hard to build and how beautiful it is. The older I’ve gotten, the more time I’ve spent on my flower beds. When the weather permits I love sitting in my Shezebo and just soaking it all in. It is peaceful, serene, filled with birds, butterflies, squirrels, chipmunks and (unfortunately for my hostas this year) rabbits, in the middle of the city. Most of all, you are a good motivator, “okay, I’ll decorate for autumn, spring, summer” – I don’t need any motivation for Christmas, that is my favorite time of year 🙂 We’re like a community here, I’ve no intention of moving, I like it here.

    1. Oh Jan, you’re so sweet! Sometimes I think of you in your Shezebo watching the wildlife. I envy that. I had the green gazebo for a year before the OK winds blew it to smithereens, and it was so serene to be out of the sun and watching the birds. Thank you!

      1. Brenda I second word for word what Jan has said. I can’t sleep if I don’t check your blog lololol. You have created a little family here.

  18. I do understand about living w pain and adapting – but please indulge me here -I am kindly suggesting to see your primary doc (as a gift to yourself) for a review and some tests that will at least confirm some questions. Walking in a boot for so long can leave your hips/pelvis/lower back all out of alignment – not to mention the effects that inactivity over time can have on your leg/ankle/hip/back muscles, tendons, etc. I am saying this because once you succumb to the pain and say “this is just how it is going to be for me going forward”, your body will continue to get weaker without movement and over time you will continue to lose more and more mobility. At some point you could be wheelchair bound and it’s unlikely to reverse. I have seen this in my extended family. You may never be where you were years ago but you may be able to adapt to or mediate the pain w exercises and keep your independence that much longer.

    1. I agree.

    2. I messaged my doctor this morning actually and informed her of this.

  19. I always read your posts, and always will! I’ve been with you from the very beginning! Is there any way your daughter or Steve or “someone” you know, can take you on drives now and then, to take the photos that you love to do??? It would then not limit you to where you go.. you could go anywhere where there is beautiful nature! I would miss that also, if I couldn’t drive. This post is a good reminder to appreciate everything we have and CAN do.. sometimes we really have to push ourselves, but then the finished job or product is such a good feeling! Have you tried going to a reputable and recommended naturopath? I’ve found that they can help immensely with things we need to boost our energy and motivation… as we age, we come deplete in many vitamins and minerals, and cellular growth.. that could be a positive solution! Take care… Marilyn

    1. A year ago Steve drove me all over and I took photos of old barns and cows and such, and that was nice. Poor Steve passed out and fell in the bathroom the other day and has three broken ribs. My daughters don’t have the time to come here, much less take me somewhere. Kasi will take me to a doctor’s appointment if she can get away. I had that two hour massage, which did nothing. I’ve been going to my chiropractor, and I see him tomorrow and will get laser treatment on my back. He said he’s done about all he can do though and said to get an MRI. I used to have acupuncture. The massage guy’s wife does some sort of treatment. I forget what it is though. Maybe it’s reflexology? So I might try that.

      1. OMG, poor Steve! How is he doing? Has he seen a doctor to determine why he passed out? That’s so scary!! I hope he feels better soon. I’ll keep him in my prayers!

  20. As long as you’re posting many of us will continue to visit you!
    Bear in mind that you can only do what you can do. No pressure on yourself; celebrate every accomplishment, Brenda.
    This was a wonderful post and reminders for many of us.
    Enjoy your visitors dropping by for a slice of cake. I’d be right there, as well.

    1. I bake the cake just to give away, mostly. I want to be a good neighbor. So far the cake has gone to Lisa, John, Peg, and Ron and Pat. I should call Steve and see if he wants any, because there’s very little left. But I think he went to his girlfriend’s place for supper.

  21. Brenda, I enjoy your blog so much. I look forward every day to reading about your plants, your neighbors and your family. Please don’t stop writing !

    1. I’ll never stop writing. I’ve been writing since I was in about third grade. Another thing I should have listed that I’m grateful for is the fact that I checked out library books when I was nine and taught myself to type. My grannie got me a typewriter, which would be a “dinosaur” now.

  22. Oh, Brenda, keep writing! You are such an inspiration. And I love your photos. A few months back I asked you about morning glories. I planted some seeds and they sure looked puny. But I kept babying them and they are blooming. Is there a way I can send you a pic? they are so pretty. The plant still looks anemic, but maybe next year they will look healthier. Thank you for helping us all to be grateful for what we CAN do. I have Fibromyalgia and now have added osteoarthritis to the blend and that means a lot of pain. Not like yours, I think, though. Bless you.

    1. My morning glories looked lush until about a week ago. Still some flowers, but my vine looks like it’s really tired. They are annuals, so you’d have to plant them again next year. At my other place, I had those wild ones that came up every year. Don’t know where they came from. They were purple. Send pics to my email address.

  23. I won’t leave you…I love the words that come out of your mind…that’s why I’m sticking with you!

    1. Well, I’m grateful to have you! I just don’t want to bore anyone with mundane things.

  24. Joan Kurth says:

    Your leaf clay dishes are so cute—they really are pretty.
    I know how it is to have your body fail you. I have heart failure so am short of breath and energy. It irritates me that I cannot do what I use to do and that the least little bit wears me out. I am fortunate to still be in my own home and have the back yard birds and small animals to watch. It gives me much pleasure. I still can feed them and they love it!
    My morning glories are still blooming and even the rose bushes are, too. It has been down to 33 degrees so it will be freezing one of these nights.

    1. My leaf dishes won’t look that good. I kind of messed up on the curling of the outsides. I couldn’t get them to look like the photo.

      1. They will be beautiful and uniquely yours and one of a kind masterpieces! I can’t wait to see them!

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