1. I feel for Kendra. I can totally understand why she had a meltdown. I think many people feel pushed to their limits these days. Kendra receive 2 gifts…. the kindness of a stranger and a mom who was willing to listen to her story and frustrations. A mama who gives a shoulder to cry on to one of her kids is the best kind of a gift!!! We’ve gone from our house in NY to our place in FL. NY people are taking this virus very seriously… FL residents, not so much. I actually had a bit of a mini meltdown Friday. We may just turn around and go back to NY…. yes, FL is that bad and just feels unsafe to me. Everyone acts like there’s no pandemic. Many, many people without masks and generally not following CDC guidelines. It just seems like I’m living in an upside down world.

  2. This story hit home for me as I have had some frustrating times trying to train someone on my job. I cannot work from home as I have been since March. There are DAILY problems with the computer system, telephone and the many unique circumstances with hiring this new person. Slap COVID and the holiday season on top of an already distressing situation and yup, let the meltdown begin.

    Brenda, I think you touched on a beautiful point about calling Mom, or connecting with someone who might help center ones perspective.

    At this time when we’re told there is so much we shouldn’t do, perhaps one of the little things, that really is a big thing, is to say “tell me how you’re doing” and then just listen . . . . just listen. . . . .
    Grateful for your blog!

  3. My heart goes out to Kendra!
    Please let her know this ~ Girl, you are doing the BEST you can under circumstances that are trying for all of us. Remember these two things ~ be gentle with yourself, and Breathe.
    It will all work out ~
    Sending hugs ~

  4. Oh Brenda,
    I really can relate to poor Kendra’s plight. My daughter has just finished building her home in Murietta, California. She just had her final inspection; but what an ordeal! She was a year over her original build time. She had to re-qualify through her lender three times! Because of this pandemic, some of her kitchen cabinets are on back order for almost a year. She had to custom build in cabinet boxes so she could get her sink plumbed and her countertops installed! She will face these cabinets with doors when they come in next year! She and her husband ended up tiling two bathrooms after the shower pan and tub were installed because the plumber tried to increase his price! Thank God she took tiling classes and bought her own saw and tools. She completely rebuilt her last house; while having three children and working from home as an accountant! She often tells people, You Tube is the best thing for learning skills and fundamentals. A few days ago, her contractor told her that the cost of framing materials and drywall have skyrocketed among other things. He estimated that to build her house today would cost around $75,000 more… Crazy and Outrageous! She is having a small Thanksgiving, her immediate family and one of her brother-in-laws; who is a recent widower. His wife died of pancreatic cancer right before the pandemic began. Our daughter is counting her blessings everyday.

  5. Hi Brenda
    I had to agree after reading about Kendra ‘a meltdown. I just this morning I was on the phone with the my
    pharmaceutical trying to get a free drug this month for Multiple Sclerosis $8000.00 a month as my grant is exhausted. I was on the phone for two hours. They’d send me from one person to the next asking each time for my name, address, birthdate and phone number. How many times do you have to confirm that for heavens sake! I accidentally hung up on them and had to start over. Yes! I had a meltdown not to mention no sleep last night worrying how would I be able to have this infusion.

    I do have a turkey but am stressed about preparing a meal.

    Thank God for mom’s like you and caring people to help in Kendra’s situation.

      1. Thank you. I’m grateful I will be able to get the drug for December from company. Don’t know what will happen in January.

    1. So sorry Ladonna…I am on one very expensive drug…even jumped through hoops to try to get it cheaper (after all, have been on it for over 20 years),,,,finally wrote the company and asked them to give it to me cheaper. No banana…no answer. Pfizer is simply not rich enough I guess. Mine is a lot cheaper than yours, but still too much. Will pray that somehow someone finds your situation and helps…there may be groups so doing…if I come across something…will alert Brenda and here…

    2. During the waits on phone calls, I work on my filing system. It is almost completed.

  6. Glad Kendra was able to finally get her family’s turkey dinner. I well remember making big dinners for my family of seven plus a set of grandparents. Happy times to remember but I was very stressed by the end of the day. Now my dear daughter makes a lovely turkey breast. Due to restrictions she will bring over my dinner. I told her I will enjoy it in solitary splendor. LOL

  7. In all the terrible stresses we deal with nearly daily now, your daughter just shows she is human!! Poor thing…when you are a divorced mom especially, you are already under extra stress just from that alone. I watch my daughter struggle every month with things to do with her situation. We happen to live in a very crazy state where the gov uses every opportunity to hurt people. We are forbidden to gather AT ALL…no matter how much you see your kin on a frequent basis. I think it upsets our daughter more than it does us…she is coming to exchange a few food items with us tomorrow, over our patio fence, not coming inside. Today I am making hubby an apple pie so she will want part of that, of course. Monday I tried to get a small turkey breast to cook…no banana…plenty of HUGE turkeys that I could not fit in my oven, if I had fridge or freezer space…plenty of hind portions, legs etc which my husband does NOT like. So I went to the deli and had them slice me 4 thick portions of mesquite smoked turkey breast (we already shared one piece) and it tasted great. I hate that I paid a small fortune for those 4 pieces…but such is life now. Were I writing a book, there is no way I could have come up with all the extreme craziness we have lived through this year alone.

  8. Yes Kendra sounds very stressed out. She is definitely a hard worker. I thought when you said the kids would be having lunch at their dad’s that they just as soon have pizza! And they’d always remember the Pizza Thanksgiving!

    Our electric company, SCE, has issued warnings due to high winds for us that they might turn the power off tomorrow
    Through Friday around noon! Fortunately for us I have a gas stove top which I can cook on but electric oven. My daughter is making beef Bourgogne so I hope we can just cook it on the stove too! Have a happy Thanksgiving 🍁🌾🍂

  9. I am glad everything turned out well for Kendra! Happy Thanksgiving to everyone!

  10. OH poor Kendra. Glad they made things right for her. Sometimes those meltdowns can be very therapeutic and needed. Glad she will have a nice dinner for her and her kiddo’s. Have a good day tomorrow. Enjoy your peace and quiet with Ivy and Charlie. Happy Thanksgiving.

  11. Your photos are especially lovely today, and I feel for Kendra. It’s tough when you’re stressed to the max, especially when you’re trying to be the best mom you know how to be. Here’s wishing all of us a very pleasant Thanksgiving!

  12. My son just went to pick up a turkey and sides. The turkey wasn’t cooked and the sides weren’t either. My convection oven will hold a twelve pound turkey so we are out of luck. The whole purpose of ordering a meal is to avoid standing up and cooking all day. We may just have to eat what I have in the freezer.

    1. Oh no! You probably don’t have a Billy Sims Barbecue nearby. Sometimes I just eat a frozen turkey TV dinner and call it good.

  13. Oh my goodness someone needs to give Kendra a very tight hug (maybe more than one). I think most of us have experienced something very similar. Initially it’s just not funny and then later it becomes something we can snicker about and then it’s downright hysterical.

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