This, the third week of March is National Introverts Week.
We live in a world where extroverts are considerably more popular. These are the people who are the life of the party.
We’re Just Different, Not Less Or Better Than:
We the introverted are often thought of as stuck up and impolite. If you aren’t a willing part of the group, then what are you? Snooty, uppity, contemptuous of others?
People may think of us that way, but the fact is, we are happy for our friends who happen to be extroverts. It just doesn’t fit our DNA.
We are the flies on the wall who watch and listen but don’t wish to mix or join in.
Our favorite activities typically include an audience of one. We are readers of books and purveyors of hobbies such as crossword puzzles and photography and all things solo.
Some consider us poop outs because we cancel at holidays, prefer to stay at home on weekends, and only occasionally accept invitations to parties.
A Book About Introverts:
If you are an introvert, you might be interested in Susan Cain’s book: “Quiet: The Power Of Introverts In A World That Can’t Stop Talking.”
The book that started the Quiet Revolution
At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over working in teams.
It is to introverts—Rosa Parks, Chopin, Dr. Seuss, Steve Wozniak—that we owe many of the great contributions to society.
In Quiet, Susan Cain argues that we dramatically undervalue introverts and shows how much we lose in doing so. She charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal throughout the twentieth century and explores how deeply it has come to permeate our culture.
She also introduces us to successful introverts—from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions.
Passionately argued, superbly researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how they see themselves.
To name just a few famous introverts: Bill Gates (founder of Microsoft) and Ivan Misner (founder of BNI, the largest networking organization in the world).
From the business world there is Warren Buffet, Elon Musk and Mark Zuckerbert.
Then there are the celebrities: Tom Hanks, Oprah Winfrey, Meryl Streep, Steven Spielberg and Emma Watson to name but a few.
Being an introvert does not mean that we can’t be successful. Actually it’s quite the opposite.
Achievement isn’t necessarily connected to our personality or how social we are. We are just quietly mastering the skills we’ve been gifted.
Thinkers, Innovators & Creators:
We are thinkers, innovators, and creators. However we prefer to be on the periphery and out of the limelight.
We introverts just want to be accepted by out party-going peers. Just don’t take it personally if we don’t accept your kind invitation.
Please allow us to spend holidays alone without being made to feel guilty if that’s not our thing. Don’t be angry with us if we’d often rather dine alone and read a book.
I know that feeling. I’ve faced it my whole life. Why do I not want to mingle? Am I depressed? Could I be angry with someone in the group?
The answer is none of those things. I just prefer to be alone. I’m simply not comfortable with small talk and loud noise and all the revelry that’s to be expected on such occasions.
Please don’t judge us for being who we are. It’s simply the way we’re made. We’re truly happy for you party goers. We just prefer to stay home alone or with our pets.